Missed miscarriage- what now?

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I've posted a few times in pregnancy etc because I've had a symptomless pregnancy so knew it wouldn't be viable.

I should be between 8-9.5 weeks (first egg released after periods returned from breastfeeding so dates not exact) but private scans, three weeks apart, have shown that the embryo stopped growing at 6.5 weeks and has no heartbeat.

NHS pregnancy team are useless around here - I can't go to an epu with a referral, but to get a referral I have to go to a&e. Which I did for a previous miscarriage on their advice, which resulted in a 9 hour wait and the doctors being horrible to me - telling me most women just do it quietly at home and don't waste their time. I was even refused sanitary towels as I should have brought enough for a 9 hour wait, despite not bleeding at the start, and they didn't have 'the fancy ones you'll be used to'.

I've got a toddler and work full time so don't have time for this either. Would it be crazy to wait until my 12 week scan and just go there with my private scan report?

Unpicking all the pregnancy admin is so depressing - have appointments to cancel etc

Also, this is my third miscarriage. So I'm not even sure if I should try again. We wanted a sibling for dd because we love her so much that I was worried we'll make her a weirdo with our obsessive love. Now, I've made everything worse as she's going to be my golden child, The Girl Who Survived my killer womb.

This is more a rant and brain dump than anything tbh.

Sorry for your loss

I just phoned up gp and said private scan had shown MMC. They then arranged an appointment for d&c which I preferred as I didn't want the miscarriage to start randomly at work. So I'd try your GP.

It was my fifth miscarriage and when I got pregnant again I took 75mg aspirin from the start for 12 weeks and now have a one month old, so I'd discuss aspirin with your GP too

Thank you for your reply. Gp says go to epu, who say I have to go to a&e.

I did take aspirin with this one: so I'm wondering if that's why this one is a mmc and hasn't been expelled?

A&e sounds ridiculously unnecessary when you already know what's happened. Id ask epu again and see if you get someone more sensible.

Have you had bloods done for 3+ losses?

I’m so sorry to hear of your experience it sounds like you are being let down. I had the tiniest of bleeds and phoned midwife team who referred me to EPU and that is where they discovered my MMC. It all came away naturally at home 5 days later. I went back to my arranged appointment and they scanned to check everything had passed and gave me access to EPU for next 3 weeks should I need it.

I think you should contact GP and explain your situation and hopefully they can help you get appointment at EPU. Consider getting signed off too as it’s pregnancy related so can’t be held against you.

I am so sorry you are facing this and I hope you get the right help and support to take you through this sad time.

I managed to get an appointment at the epu after lots of begging but started to naturally miscarry a few hours before my appointment. Need to wait a few weeks then take a pg test to see if it's been a complete mc