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Just miscarried for first time

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Dreamingin · 07/09/2019 05:29

At 9 going on 10 weeks, I started bleeding the other day, went hospital and they scanned me and told me baby was very small for alleged age, 0.47cm i think? Said it could still grow but unlikely. And after all this I’m aware of my loss.
I don’t know how I feel about the situation. For the last few days the pain and then discomfort I’ve been in has more outweighed the mental and emotional trauma. But now, though still bleeding, the clotting and cramping has stopped, or the cramping has minimised should I say. Well. Now I just don’t know what to do with myself. I really made myself ready for this child. Now I feel like I’ve just lost my future.
I’ve actually written a blog page, just 1 post that I won’t add to, about the experience.
Because for some reason I just can’t talk to anyone, but writing my thoughts for strangers gives me even the slightest bit of comfort.
The cramping starts again when I stand up or walk, I’ve been in bed for 3 days straight. Is this normal?
I feel sad
Not sure what else, my mind just feels like a blur. I can’t even cry anymore, even tho I want to, I feel like I need to let it all out but maybe I already have. So what’s left in me? If anything.
I have to go for another scan in a couple of days which I’m dreading.

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marcybelva · 10/09/2019 20:09

Hello. I also miscarried for the first time recently. I have had on and off pain and bleeding ever since. This was my first pregnancy so I feel robbed of the joy of getting pregnant. Like if I get pregnant again I won't be excited ill be scared. My excitement was short lived with this one. Anyway I wanted to reach out to you and tell you you are not alone.

LilyandAnnie90 · 10/09/2019 20:10

I have no advice but I’m so sorry Flowers

Dreamingin · 10/09/2019 20:59

@marcybelva I feel exactly the same! Like I’m so scared it’s going to happen again, but I’m so desperate for a baby now I have this empty feeling knowing the child I’ve made a space for in my heart is never arriving I feel like my future has been taken away😭 I’m so sorry that happened to you, will be thinking of you 😪
@LilyandAnnie90 thank you 💕

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marcybelva · 10/09/2019 21:06

Thank you for sharing your story and hearing from you has conforted me. This is an isolating experience since no-one else really feels what I am feeling not even my partner. So I hope you feel better soon and know that I at least somewhat understand

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