Struggling

[MrsMc2019]

I had an anembryonic pregnancy discovered in February this year, what would have been my due date is four weeks away and I'm really struggling with my grief just now. It's as if it's hitting me all at once.

I'm not sure what I'm looking for by posting this but I think I'm just trying to get grip on what I'm feeling and writing this helps.

Sorry to hear about your loss. I don't think there's any timeframe on when the grief hits you, often it can be very delayed because of the practicalities of dealing with things when it actually happens.

Be kind to yourself and have a good cry or whatever you need to do. How does your partner feel?

My fiancé has been a great support, he sits with me and lets me cry it out in a hug when I have to xx

Without meaning to be too hippy-dippy, have you tried writing stuff down? I find that writing down the details, and the bits that you maybe don't want to say out loud, then just chucking it away really helps with loss very generally.

I'm going through a miscarriage right now and sort of coping ok, but I'm already dreading my 'due date'. I know that's going to be so much harder. I had all these ideas about what the next few months would be like, even what it would feel like to hold them. I'm really worried about reaching that date. I understand where you're coming from. It's the loss of what could have been.

I hear you.