Chemical pregnancy & thoughtless partner

[Hardheadedwoman39]

I'm mid chemical pregnancy loss for an unplanned pregnancy that we decided to pursue.

Last night my partner said "it problem didn't work because it knew it wasn't wanted"

It was me that was unsure initially. I challenged him and he said it was directed at both of us.

He then did a complete u turn and said he meant it was just fate.

I'm struggling..... 😞

:( sounds like something someone would say out of a sense of guilt. Like he feels he or you have caused it somehow by not being sure about the pregnancy/it being unplanned. If it’s a chemical pregnancy you can’t both have known for much longer than a week before miscarrying so even if he was saying he wanted to go ahead with the pregnancy perhaps he was putting a strong front on but not so sure inside and now it’s gone he’s finding it tough.

A difficult time for you both, I’m sorry you’re going through this. If he’s generally a good caring partner I’d try let this go as something he said that’s thoughtless or an expression of his own feelings and try move forward supporting one another. Men often do struggle to process and acknowledge their emotions around pregnancy loss as everyone is focused on the woman. It’s tough for you both, I hope you are both able to support one another and let his comment go.

Thank you, wise words x