Is a week a reasonable amount of time to have off with a miscarriage?

[Oneforposy7]

I'm on day 3 of a heavy bleed and having a scan tomorrow to confirm it is a miscarriage (it is, I have no doubt). I have no idea how long I'll need off work and have a history of rushing back to work/not taking medical things seriously enough.

Probably sounds a silly thing to be thinking about but it helps me process things if I have a rough plan.

Is a week a reasonable amount of time to get over the worst of it physically? Too long? Too short? I just have no idea and I'd be really grateful for people's experiences please.

I think this is one of those things where some women will go back to work after a week, some women will carry on working through it, and some will need a month off.

I’d say see how you feel after a week but don’t push yourself to be seeing time limits.

*setting time limits

Sorry your loss x There is no 'correct' amount of time. It will depend on how you feel physically and emotionally . I have taken varying amounts of time in the past for very different reasons. Go to the Dr and get a sick note, sometimes their 'standard issue' on dates guides you ... but you can always extend it or return to work sooner. Take care x

Personally I have had 3 misscarriages and a ectopic pregnancy.

My first misscarriage I was extremely poorly. I was off for around 2 weeks after I got out of hospital.

My second I took a week off but could of done with abit more time.

Ectopic I was off for almost 3

And I worked through my 4th pregnancy ( misscarriage) ..

It really really really depends. Hope your okay ! xx

Just see how you feel. I went back after a week but in hindsight I could have done with a bit more time

I had three (two early and one MMC needing an ERPC)
I worked through two of them and had a day off with the third post surgery (it was my birthday or I'd have gone in too).
I really wish I had taken more time as I pushed all of my feelings away and soldiered on only for that to fail in spectacular style and I spent a weekend (the first my partner was away) crying inconsolably.
Listen to your body and take the time YOU need. Sorry you're going through it, it's bloody awful.

Thank you all so much. It's so hard to know isn't it. I was 7 and a half weeks. Emotionally at the moment I feel ok but I just have no idea what to expect. Thank you for sharing your experiences, it really helps

I had a week off but looking back I think it would have been better to take longer. Felt very wobbly emotionally for quite a while afterwards. So sorry for your loss. I think a PP is right though in that there’s no one answer. See how you feel, but don’t feel like you have to rush back because you’re not allowed more time. Be kind to yourself.

I've had 4 miscarriages. I've always been a sahp so have "worked" through every one. Personally I have had a massive low 2 weeks after the actual mc - I'm guessing this to be hormonal and maybe individual to me but I'd bare it in mind that it can happen at some point.

So sorry for your loss. My GP said 2 weeks is what she normally signs people off for. I've heard lots of people saying they didnt take enough time off initially and ended up taking longer later because psychologically they hadn't recovered enough. Take care x

With all of my miscarriages, I was signed off work by the hospital dr for two weeks.

I have had 6 miscarriages and for 5 I carried on as normal (have always had v bad periods and tbh these a went as bad as some periods I've had). For some reason the 6th at just over 6 weeks was so painful I couldn't stand at all so I had to have a couple of days as I couldn't physically work.

I may sound heartless but I conceive v easily but miscarry often, there is research that concurs with this and therefore have a high conception and thus high fertility rate. So I wasn't upset and didn't need time emotionally.

I think you just need to be focused on your body and how you're feeling in a few days

Thank you all.

You sound like me before I had a nervous breakdown. I always thought time off sick was for physical issues not 'sorting my emotions'. I wish I looked after my mental health before it "took care of me"..... You may be in shock and not feeling massive swings of emotion right now but you don't know how you'll feel after your thoughts are confirmed by a professional. Basically take as long as you need but not just for physical symptoms. If you get to the end of a week or two but aren't ready you can stay off until you are Xxx

I agree with pp - there is no set amount of time. I had a natural miscarriage and passed the most clots on a Friday and went back to work the following Wednesday. I also had a mmc and a D&C on a Saturday and was back at work on the Monday. But many women need more time off both physically and emotionally. For me I wanted to keep busy, plus I don’t have a physically demanding job.

Sorry you are going through this, it really sucks x

I've generally been "away" from work during 5 mc and 2 ruptured ectopic surgeries - with the mc other than one at 12 weeks which was horrendous I've worked from home during them. With the ectopics I had 1 week off then worked from home for 1 week but went straight back after mc

But I'm the sort of person who can't sit at home on my own dwelling on what I've lost. I need to get back to a routine and be around people.

I also work in a challenging fast paced industry and felt "bad" having lots of time off especially when I was also fitting ivf in around work and my boss had been very supportive already

Thank you all. I don't really know how I feel at the moment but your messages have reminded me that it's ok to stay off work until I figure that out.

Yes, a week is what I took. Had got over the initial shock and most of bleeding by then. Sorry op.