7 weeks measuring 5 - history of recurrent MC.

[JunkyardViolin]

Been for an early scan today after suffering recurrent miscarriages.

I'm supposed to be 7 weeks but I am only measuring 5. She said it's everything they'd expect to see at 5 but not 7.

This will be my 8th miscarriage (when it happens). I feel like I'm on the verge of collapse. I want to just leave and not think about anything again. I feel like going to the Drs and asking for a note for work and just fucking off somewhere.

I don't know how to face the normal world anymore.

I'm so sorry. So sorry! Yes 100% get signed off of work. Iv had two m.c'a and it took me months to get passed the initial heart ache. I can't possibly imagine how you feel. ❤️❤️

Junkyard I’m So so sorry :(

The only way I could get through it all (after 6mc and numerous ivf attempts) was by having a supportive dh and prioritising my own mental health. I took time off / I took the sick note / I didn’t see preg friends etc. Took me a while to realise I had to protect myself to stay sane.

Do whatever you need to. You are going through such pain and need to look after urself. Hope you have support in real life.

Hugs xx

Thank you

I worry because I really feel like I could do with a good few weeks off but I don't know it's that's reasonable or not. I just can't picture going back to my desk on Monday. The thought makes me feel physically ill.

Take it off.

Your gp will def give you a sick note. Don’t even hesitate to lie in bed for a week eating chocolate watching tv and crying. Your no good at work feeling like this anyway.

Just because people don’t talk about mc much/ it’s downplayed in society don’t underestimate how destroying it is. Your allowed to feel broken and you need time to heal. I promise somehow in a few weeks you will feel a little more human.

But for now choose a Netflix series and don’t leave the bed :)
Xxx

I got to the stage after mc 4 where I used to ask for leave as soon as I was pregnant for week 7-9 as I knew that’s when I would miscarry so I didn’t have to be taking sick leave. Terrible really.
Sending you a virtual hug and so sorry you have been through so much.

@JunkyardViolin Definitely take time off. Just so you know, there will be new laws introduced mist likely next year, guaranteeing few weeks off (at least 2 I believe, but not decided yet) to women who have gone through prenatal baby loss, much like what New Zealand has just introduced. So absolutely do not feel guilty about taking however long you need after something like this, if you need months, take months. It's perfectly normal and the world is finally starting to recognise this!

Also please know any such time will have to be disregarded by your employer for the purposes of your promotion, career progression and pay rises, and you cannot be discriminated because of it in any way.

Lawyer hat off. I'm so sorry for you, I lost one baby and I can't imagine going through what you've been through. Sending you the absolute biggest hug and definitely put yourself first & do whatever you need to do now xxx

One thing to add to the above OP, such time off sick must be disregarded if it's for a pregnancy or maternity related reason, so do make sure your sick note makes it clear. I'd also check your sick leave policy before you go away not to end up in hot water because of this. If you want to go away it may be safer to take some time off sick due to miscarriage first to recover and then either few days holiday after to go on holiday or perhaps bereavement leave (it depends on your policies again, I can't advise on your particular circumstances, these are just my general thoughts). It might be worth checking them and discussing this with your HR team to make sure you can do what you need now and that they're aware of how they should treat your time off. Xxx