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Lindsey90 · 21/07/2019 23:45

So i me and my other half had been trying for a baby from February. I lost my granny who was more like a 2nd mummy rather than just a grandparent she was 82 and had cancer. Her death although was expectes but it still hurt like hell. The day after her funeral i found out i was pregnant. I literally cried so hard and was so fuckin happy. Then a few weeks later. Just last week i miscarried my baby. I was 9 weeks. I literally cant take it. I have a 5 y/o son and i love him so much. But i cant help feel guilty for my baby who i lost, i loved that little baby from the moment i found out even to now. I dont know how to cope with this. I just cant concentrate on anything. I went back to work literally a week later. All im seeing in my work is pregnant women and i cant help but get jealous and then feel guilty because i dont know thier story for all i know they are carrying thier baby after 1 or 6 miscarriages before they finally got pregnant. Or women who used ivf to get pregnant. But all i see is the bump i will never get to carry as i lost my baby. What do i do. How do i go on Sad

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SunStruck · 22/07/2019 03:06

@Lindsey90 so sorry for your loss 💐 I also lost mine at 9 weeks (first child), and it really hurts. I think you feel this extra a lot now because of also losing your Granny so recently - it must be so hard. I promise it will get better, you have a child and know you can get pregnant, by your name you still look young and I am sure you will get pregnant soon one day when you are ready and have grieved.

I know it's hard to hear but 1st trimester is really touch and go, and more then likely it was down to chromosomal abnormalities which couldn't see the foetus survive anyway. The only thing that comforts me is that I didn't have to make the decision to abort if my baby had a condition where it would die outside of me, nature made that decision for me.

Be kind to yourself and take some more time off if you can ❤️

Lindsey90 · 17/07/2020 10:07

Cant believe im only seeing this now. Thank you so much for that message. Tho im happy to say i am now sitting here a year after my miscarrige currently 5 weeks left of my pregnancy with my little rainbow baby girl. I fell pregnant 4 months after my miscarriage. Im sorry if i seemed rude not replying. Xx

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Wearenotyourkind · 19/07/2020 14:09

Congratulations on your rainbow baby 🌈

Lindsey90 · 19/07/2020 14:35

Thank you so much. I cannot wait for her. All my clothes in my hospital bag for her are rainbows. Shes our little miracle. 4 weeks 5 days to go. Smile

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