Please help!

[clarissa469]

Hi, I’m just wondering if anyone has been advised that they had an “abnormal” gestation sack, mine sadly was almost sausage shaped with nothing in it. I was 5wk 2 days on Wednesday, going back on Wednesday coming for a re-scan - was advised to let nature take its course. I had one bit of bleeding, nothing heavy and then it stopped after less than an hour. I do have period cramps on an off but still no bleeding. Has anyone had similar? I’m scared I’m going to go on Wednesday and there is still nothing there but I’m just sadly retaining the miscarriage. Thanks

I am so sorry that you are going through this. I didnt have exactly what you had but I did have a MMC where my pregnancy stopped progressing at 6 weeks; I had already retained my MC for 4 weeks at that point so I opted for the surgical management. Would that be something you would consider or have the option to choose if you are worried about how long your body may retain your MC?

@TwittleBee thanks so much for your response, and I'm sorry to hear you had a similar experience, if it's ok would you mind sharing yours with me either on here or a private message? Yes I would, as awful as it sounds I just want this to end as I'm in pain so bad with period pains but no bleeding and everyone is dismissing me as I'm not bleeding. I'm at the end of my tether really

Hi
I too have had this, it’s awful.
I knew at 6 weeks but didn’t actually miscarry until 13 weeks when left for nature to take its course.
During that time I had full on pregnancy symptoms.
Sounds like it may be happening for you now though as you are having pain.

Do you have decent pain killers?
Codiene based pain killers took the edge off for me, paracetamol and ibuprofen did not help with the pain.
You can get solpadine over the counter, take with food though. Your gp could prescribe something stronger than over the counter.

@crosser62 oh my goodness how awful I'm so sorry this happened to you, can I ask did you opt to miscarry naturally or did they advise it/not allow any other treatment? This happened to me a few years back with a twin blighted ovum which I retained and only bled after a month - unfortunately I bled so much I hemmoraged and had to have several blood transfusions to save my life. I'm scared now as I have a son who needs caring for and I hope the same doesn't happen again. Yes I have good pain relief thankyou, my scan in on Wednesday. I hope I get some answers. It's breaking my heart

I dont mind sharing, basically I had a very mild bit of spotting and some terrible cramps so was checked out at my early pregnancy unit where they discovered I couldnt be as far long as I thought I should be. They explained that possibly either I am having a MMC or I got my dates wrong (I knew my dates werent wrong though) so they booked me in for a follow up scan a week later. At that 2nd scan it was confirmed that no progress had been made and I must have MCd at 6 weeks and for whatever reason my body hadnt realised (I was still being sick with morning sickness!).

After my scan a midwife and a doctor spoke to me in a side room about my options, to either "wait and let nature take its course", "medical management" (the pill option) or "surgical management" - I chose the surgical management and was totally supported with that choice. The reasons I decided that route was, because like you, the pain was horrible and also knowing that my baby was dead inside me (depsite just being a yolk sac) was too much to bare. Also I wanted the whole thing over quickly - letting nature take its course and the pill option can both be slow, painful and very bloody processes - I didnt want to have to go through that physically or emotionally.

Having the surgery was simple, although scary as they put you under general anaesthetic. I only bled for 3 days afterwards. For me, I think surgery was a good option because clearly waiting wasnt doing anything.

If you are in the UK the NHS website can be helpful www.nhs.uk/conditions/miscarriage/what-happens/

Do they know aout your history @clarissa469 ? Seems like surely offering you surgery would be sensible?

@TwittleBee your story is so similar to when I had my twin blighted ovum, at the time I let nature take its course because I couldn't mentally "let go" of what was inside me, I grasped on to hope that something would grow plus I wasn't in pain until I bled.

Yes, surgery is an option and the pill at this point the pain is impacting my ability to parent and they just aren't listening and telling me I have to wait until Wednesday. One of the nurses said "well you had a straighforward birth with your son (no heavy bleeding or complications) so it doesn't mean it will happen with this situation. I did say to hear miscarrying an empty gestational sack is totally different than giving birth. It's just so unfair we have to wait, I get why they do it because miracles can happen but it's the mental and physical impact it has they don't take into account sometimes.

@TwittleBee thank you for sharing by the way

It was my first of many many miscarriages. For me, I needed to know that it was meant to be and so for me what was best was to allow it to happen naturally.

It was torture.
It was the first of many blighted ovum pregnancies.
After that, I opted for medical management each time to speed along the inevitable.

I too needed hospital management even though the bleeding was severe and heavy it was the pain for me. I can only describe it as labour pains. I needed gas and air and morphine for the few hours it lasted.

All the best, every one is different and experiences vary. X

Thanks for everyone's advice and help. Had my scan today and unfortunately it looks like another blighted ovum. I have come home and began to bleed heavy x

I am so sorry and I really hope you are as comfortable as can be with the pain and bleeding. Sending love x

@TwittleBee thank you so much. I'm curled up on the couch for the night with my or water bottle. Really appreciate your help xx