Miscarriage years ago...just need to talk
Hannahph91 · 15/07/2019 19:46
Ok so cut a long story short I got pregnant at 16. I miscarried baby at 10 weeks which I've been thinking about quite a lot recently. Anyway, I went to buy a car yesterday from the large car company I work for and low and behold the business manager of our branch is my ex from said pregnancy. My stomach nearly fell out my arse. I've not spoke or seen him for years and when I did he made my stomach flip. I'm now 28! I sat down with him to sign for my car and he'd already wrote my date of birth down! I'm over thinking it and I've just been thinking I wonder if he thinks about our baby. I just feel like how can we both sit there knowing we have so much history and we were going to have a baby together. I couldn't sleep last night and I've not stopped thinking about it. I've never forgot the baby I lost but I do feel like because we were so young it kinda gets brushed under the carpet. Maybe I've never come to terms with it. I don't know but I just feel like I owe him a conversation!
Ailsa34 · 15/07/2019 21:02
I'm so sorry you have been through a miscarriage. Did you not know that you both work for the same company? Maybe you could try and talk to him but I suppose it could be difficult to bring it up straight away.
Hannahph91 · 17/07/2019 06:55
Thanks for your reply.
I knew we both worked for the same company but I didn't think he worked on the same site as me. We are a massive car dealership so there's loads of sites all over the UK. It just seemed so strange to be sat there with him. X
Rumplesmoothskin · 17/07/2019 07:08
Email him and ask if he'd like to chat as friends, I think. A daytime coffee on your lunch break might be a good place to start.
Of course you will have these feelings about him, you both experienced such a loss together but you split up for a reason so don't rush if you are feeling that way inclined.
It must have been so hard at such a young age, could you seek counselling?
Hannahph91 · 17/07/2019 19:31
Thanks for taking the time to reply. I've had to see him again today for the car. He's literally bent over backwards trying to sort this car out for me. No I didn't have counselling unfortunately I was basically just expected to forget about it. Nobody ever talks about it. I talk about it with my best friend sometimes. Maybe a lunch time coffee would help. There's just so much I want to say to him xx
burnttoastandjam · 04/09/2019 20:13
@Hannahph91 did you meet up with him to talk? Hope that you are feeling better now
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