Supporting someone who miscarried

[greysilver]

Today my sister miscarried at 21 weeks old, he was her first baby and my heart is breaking for her and DH.

I'm not sure what to do or say, or how to be supportive or to let her know I'm here for her. She is the best sister anyone could possibly ask for. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

I'm going through a missed miscarriage at the moment and I'd say just let her know your there for her? I've told some friends and nearly heard from them and other have message every day just to say they are thinking of me or to ask how I am and to listen when I rant. Nothing anyone says makes it easier but knowing people care about me has meant a lot

Check on her regularly and listen. Don't stay silent. It's probably easier to say what not to say, to be honest. Do not go down the route "it wasn't meant to be", "it was not a baby yet", "at least you can get pregnant", "you'll have another one", "it happens to lots of people", "it wouldn't have lived anyway, there was something wrong with it", "better now than later on", you get the gist. Anything else will always be welcome and appreciated. You're a lovely, caring person and she'll be grateful you're looking after her at this difficult time. Whatever you'd say to someone who lost a family member is probably the best thing to say, it's her baby that died and it needs to be acknowledged and respected x