Low mood following miscarriage

[sophied1983]

Had a miscarriage back in March. Of course I was very sad at the time.

My cycles have been okay - ranging from 30-35 days (they used to be a lot longer pre-miscarriage).

I'm still getting days (like today) when I'm on the verge of tears all day.

I generally feel okay and happy and we're busy trying again. Been using ovulation tests this month which have been a bit frustrating as on CD25 and four days of high on digital tests but no peak. Probably means this cycle is going to be longer like they used to be (+40 days).

I've noticed I seem to be a lot more hormonal - tearful pre-period, sore boobs, nausea etc. But not noticed the low mood/ tearfulness around ovulation before.

Anyway, don't really know why I'm sharing. Figured maybe there's someone else out there who is struggling too.

I'm so sorry for your loss. My miscarriage was in October and it didn't really hit me properly until January. Sometimes I think there's just delayed grief at play. Be kind to yourself.

Maybe you're right. I am finding each cycle tougher and tougher. At first I felt quite optimistic about trying again after the initial sadness.

It takes everyone a different length of time to get back to some kind of 'normal '. I've lost 2 babies ( and had one premie) and each took a long time and even now (from 1990 and 2000) I sometimes can't speak for crying/trying not to cry. I had counselling after each and that definitely helped but also just realising that it was okay to be very very sad. Hormones don't help obviously but sometimes you will still be low. It goes for other losses too. My mum died 23 years ago and I still cry occasionally missing her. But my babies are always with me. Just be kind to yourself. There's is no time limit on grief

Hi @sophied1983, I'm sorry you're struggling. I've found that I'm more teary since my miscarriage, especially when my period is due. I've been having counselling and it's helping having someone just to listen.

Sending best wishes, it's really tough ❤️

I'm so sorry for your loss. Lost my baby in May and honestly it's not getting any easier. We are trying also. This is my first cycle since.

It's completely normal to feel low sometimes. It's a huge loss, people don't realise. It's not selfish to take some time for you. Rest if you need to. Best of luck to you xx

I had a MC 4 years ago, it hurts, a lot less than it did but it still hurts sometimes. Around my due date especially. I had counselling which helped. Be kind to yourself, it's a loss, you're allowed to grieve.

I've never tried counselling. But have been seeing a mentor linked to my professional development and cried on her, which makes me think I could do with talking to someone.

Did you do it privately or get a referral from GP? I wasn't offered anything at the time.

I was so chuffed that it only took us four months to conceive with my silly long cycles. Gutted that this whole year feels like it's been spent on being pregnant/ the miscarriage/ trying to move on and get back to some sense of normality.

EWCM today on CD26 so gawd knows how long this cycle will be.

Mine is through my GP @sophied1983. It took a while to get the first appointment though. I initially referred myself when I hit a year ttc but the timing worked out well in the end.

🤞 That you're gearing up to ovulate now x