MMC due date

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Hi everyone,
I just wondered if there is anyone else in my boat...
I had a mmc in November at 12 weeks and now my what would have been due date is coming up on Sunday. This week I've felt so sad and angry. I can't stop thinking about what should been. I'm finding it hard to concentrate in work as I keep thinking I should be on maternity leave now! Any advice on how to cope would be very much appreciated x

Helloo,

I am in the same boat as you and I want to say I’m so sorry for your loss.
Before my daughter I lost my first baby at 20 weeks through medical problems...I was awful to the point anyone who had kids I wouldn’t go near.
I ended up having my daughter who is now 4.
In January I had a mmc, and going to the school runs seeing all these new born baby’s makes me so sad.
My cycles are still all over the place which doesn’t help.
So unfortunately I can’t give you any advice but just letting you know your never on your own with how you feel x

Hi Newbie,

Thank you so much for your reply, it's really nice to know I'm not on my own but I'm so sorry for your loss, it's such a shit club to be in!

I have a 4 year old too and I would love so much to make her a big sister, will just have to try and relax and keep everything crossed! Hopefully I'll feel better once I get past Sunday, I'm not usually an angry person but I just can't help it at the moment!

I know exactly what you mean about seeing babies, they're all I seem to see or hear people talking about, I really try to be happy for my pregnant friends and colleagues but I'm finding it very hard.

I hope you're doing better than me x

No problem my lovely❤️
And it is and like you I really wanted to give my daughter a brother or sister.
Having it taken away so quickly is just rubbish. Are you ttc yet?
If so you go girl!
If you find it hard around friends,I’m sure they will understand.
I just want things to get back to normal so I can start trying again, but so scared it will happen again😔

Big hugs xx

for you both.
My due date was on a Sunday and I asked the priest to give a little mention of my baby at mass. It helped a little. The miscarriage was very traumatic for me in many ways. I thought about that little potential baby (anembryonic but to me "my baby") for many years. Just recently I thought about it again. My exH never gave it another thought. It didn't affect him at all. I found the miscarriage association helpful and would have found this forum helpful I think if I'd have known about it at the time.

Are you ttc again?

Hii there,
That is so lovely you did that.
For me I had a tattoo, I also have a necklace with the scans for both which helps me a little.
I would love too, but I am so scared. When it happened at 12 weeks it was still as bad as 20 weeks.
My cycle is still very much all over the place and so is ovulation.
So I just don’t when’s the right time.

I’m sorry for you loss
❤️

We've been trying for the last 2 cycles but no success. I know that if I did fall again I would be petrified.

Can you see yourself trying again? I may have a break this month as my head is all over the place. Wish I had a crystal ball...x

Thank you Dt,
I'm really sorry for your loss, I hope you're doing well now xx

Without giving you disgusting visions...(being very tactical how I put this)
Ever since I had the mmc my cm is all over the place so one day I have loads of EWCM that could last a week then back to normal cm then another week of EWCM, so I have no idea when I ovulate...cycle still anywhere 35 plus.
Ohhhh I hope it happens quick for you❤️ It took me three months for for all three babies. So I’m hoping nothings changed in the timing xx

I miscarried in the January and conceived in the June. It took me a couple of months to even contemplate sex again. I was quite ill. DD is now 12. I was terrified of miscarrying again so they gave me a reassurance scan at around 6 weeks as I bled again. I also got an early appointment with my community midwife. I bled for weeks on and off and was found to have a cervical ectropian. I relaxed a little after that as I knew what was causing the bleeding. Dd2 took only one cycle and I bled with her too so again I had early scans and appointments. Surprise ds was a monkey too and I had the most bleeding with him. I was found to have a bicornate uterus and the bleeding was coming from the right side but he was happily tucked up on the left. He's now 4. I've since read that bleeding in pregnancy is common if you have endometriosis which I do. All 3 times were very stressful and I'm glad I'm done now as I couldn't handle the stress of all that again. I was on my own from the moment I found out about ds too so all those times sat in the early pregnancy unit and having scans was on my own. It was a scary and lonely time.
When you are ready to try again and are successful then ask for a reassurance scan and get an early appointment with the midwife. It really helped me. I'd also implore you not to test before the day your period is due. It seems everyone does these days not realising that one in four of pregnancies miscarry and many don't make it as far as the day your period was due so they are then crushed when AF arrives as they thought they were pregnant. Please wait. Sending you lots of luck

Aww Dt, sorry you had to be on your own for the last surprise baby❤️ Thank you for your words. I too had cramps when I had my mmc and I went for a early scan at 6 weeks and everything was fine..I only found out at my 12 week scan the baby had passed at 7 weeks so I am just so scared because I was so happy. With my cycles being everywhere trying again seems I’d be constantly let down thinking I was pregnant.
Atm I am a very bitter person scrutinising every parent on the play ground with 5 children thinking “all I want is one more” and you’ve got 5. I shouldn’t be like this and I don’t know how hard they even tried, suppose though these emotions are just another horrible thing that comes along. Xx

I'm so sorry. I bet everywhere you look there's pregnant women too? That's how it seemed to me.
Take care of yourselves and I hope things work out and you get the baby you dream of

Thank you Dt, I'm so sorry you had to go through such a tough time. I only ever do a test once I'm a week late, I would rather wait until I'm really sure!

Newbie I could have written your last message, watching other mums is tough but then I guess we have no idea what they may have been through! Really starting to wish I was a man!! x

Dt, yes especially school runs, friends I’ve had to take a step back..it sounds so unfair of me but I feel guilty being happy about someone’s baby and for me a baby
that I never got to have. Thank you for your words my lovely❤️

Carltz, it’s hard, I get so sad/mad all at the same time. Me too! Life would be so much easier xx