Guilt after miscarriage

[Masha31]

I had my 12 week scan on Friday and found out my baby had died at 8+4. I had surgery less than 24 hrs later because I didn't want to wait for things to happen naturally and wanted the option of memorial/ceremony.

I'm struggling with guilt, I feel that I shouldn't be eating anything that's not plain or something I would normally enjoy. We cancelled a holiday that we should be on now but went away for a couple of days instead with our 5 year old, I felt guilty the whole time because I I just wanted to be at home even though I tried to make it a nice time for her. Has anyone else felt this way?

Guilt in the aftermath of a mc is normal.

But you seem to want to punish your self which isn't normal.

Please speak to someone, your GP, mc association or similar.

You don't deserve or need punishment, you did nothing wrong.

I am so very sorry for your loss nurture yourself at such a difficult time and let others do so too.

Thank you for your comment. I went to a local support group today and spoke about how I'm feeling. Long road ahead but it helped. X

So glad it helped.

Yes it takes time and I'm afraid being honest it never really leaves you.

My first pregnancy if they had survived would be turning 28 this year, 2nd would have just turned 19.

But you get better at coping with it.