Your experiences after ERPC

[Chanel05]

I had an ERPC 3 weeks ago today and I am having a week of feeling utter despair. Not crying as such but the feeling inside. When people ask "how are you?" as part of a general conversation/greeting in the morning I can only bring myself to say "alright" or "okay" not even "good" because I don't feel like life is good at the moment. My baby died at 8+1 and I had the procedure at 11+3. I finally finished bleeding last Sunday.

I wanted to hear about other people's experiences after the surgery. When did you stop bleeding? Did you ovulate after? If so, when? Did you track your cycle? How long did it take for you to get af afterwards?

Sorry for all your losses.

@Chanel05 I am really really sorry you are going through this right now and wanted to just reach out and give you a virtual hug. The same thing happened to me - I had a mmc at 12 weeks and d&c (baby's hb stopped around 9 weeks). The pathology reports showed it was a partial molar pregnancy. It's been four months now for me since the surgery and I have only had two AFs. It's a very long recovery, both physically and emotionally. It will get better in time, but there are still good days and bad days. That's perfectly normal it seems.

I started this blog to help other women in the same situation as us. I think you might like the polling section, given your questions on how long it took to get a BFN, O, and get AF. You can take the poll here and it will show you what other users put down for how long it took them: mcandbeyond.weebly.com/some-fun-polls.html

Wishing you all the best for a speedy recovery! Xxx

I had an ERPC on 26/4 so a month ago now. Was 8+4, no heartbeat at scan at 8w and having previously experienced two miscarriages with natural management, couldn’t bear to wait again.

In answer to your questions OP I stopped bleeding about 10 days post procedure, don’t believe I have ovulated and have not had a period yet. A waiting game.

How are you feeling now? Hope you are ok.its totally normal to not be able to engage properly. I find socialising straight afterwards super stressful and feel very disconnected from others

@VisionsofJohanna any luck on ovulating so far?

Still feeling rubbish really. I have a desperate longing that won't go away, I just miss being pregnant so much.

It was a long time ago, but I remember miscarrying quite vividly. I was 10 weeks gone and it was horrible. I had to have ERPC as I was bleeding so much - I saw our local doctor and he phoned ahead to the hospital saying, 'You have to see her NOW!' So there I was, flooding everywhere, losing a much-wanted pregnancy, and realising that the level of blood loss was actually quite alarming.

However, I stopped bleeding within a couple of days after the ERPC and my cycle went back to normal pretty quickly. I asked if I needed to wait any particular length of time and was told no, just have a period first so you know roughly when you conceived. I got pregnant again on my third post-MC cycle. I was quite anxious for the first few months, but everything was fine, with a big healthy baby at the end of it.

It does get better, OP, it really does, but it takes time.

@Chanel05 nothing yet. I am tracking with OPKs but I find them so hit and miss depending on time of day etc. You? How are you tracking?

I know what you mean, hard to enjoy anything really atm. It WILL happen for you. What are you thinking in terms of timeframe for trying again. Sometimes I think the body is ready even before the mind is, so i’m trying to remember that