Pregnancy Early Miscarriage Thread

[Islandermum]

Hello all, thought I'd start a thread for all of us that have had an early miscarriage.
I had a chemical MC (5weeks) on 21/05/19. Struggling emotionally but find it so helpful to chat to people who share my experience.
Apologies if there is a similar thread.

@Islandermum I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.
I've just had a similar thing happen. Positive pregnancy tests for nearly a week. Had it confirmed as pregnant at the drs on Friday then Saturday started bleeding and confirm by drs yesterday that I was no longer pregnant.
Sending you hugs.
Not sure if you're in a similar position but as it was so early we hadn't told anyone so not really got anyone to talk to about it.

I think I’m about to. 7weeks 3 days and whilst the foetus had grown since last week and still has a heartbeat, the gestation sac has moved down near to the cervix and I’m cramping and bleeding so the doctor thinks it’s coming. No amount of googling has shown me anything about live pregnancies doing this! I wish I knew. So sorry to hear about yours, it’s horrible.

@Fusillage so sorry to hear about your situation, how are you doing today? Was it your gp or the hospital? Could they refer you to somewhere for early pregnancy? 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻 for you. Hope you're ok and if you need to talk I'm here for you. 💕

@Abi85 you are so kind, thank you. It happened last night /this morning. I think it’s the most physically painful thing that’s ever happened. I have no idea how women give birth if it’s worse than that! That said I spent the evening reading the MN miscarriage practicalities thread which was an amazing thing to have by my side (thank you all 34 pages of posters). I hope you found someone to talk to.

Hi ladies, so sorry you're going through this too. So after a positive pt my partner and I went for a private scan at 6+6 for some reassurance after a miscarriage last year (it took us 8 months to conceive again - we're both 40), only to be told they could only see a gestational sac and things didn't look good. My doc then referred me for an nhs scan which should've been with the EPAU but something went wrong and I ended up at an appt for a dating scan! So the lovely lady scanned me anyway (externally) and saw a yolk sac this time but still no baby! She then made a referral to the EPAU where they finally confirmed a week ago that it was a missed miscarriage. Monday just gone (now 9+6) I went in to hospital and took the first pill to block progesterone for medical management, but I then had the miscarriage at home Tues evening before I was due to take the tablets Wednesday morning. I'm feeling ok - just not sure I can bear to go through this again. I am blessed to have two boys (10 and 6) from a previous relationship, but my partner and I would really love a baby together.
Sorry this is so long, sending strength to those struggling too x

So sorry to hear that Josie. I hope you're looking after yourself and taking the time you need. Sending lots of luck to you x

Hi ladies so sorry you are going through this experience also.
I was 8+6 last Friday when I woke up and didn't feel pregnant anymore - all of my symptoms seemed to have disappeared.
I kept it quiet until Saturday afternoon when I started spotting. I told my partner who then took me to the EPAU - who turned me away because it was the weekend and said they had no one to book me it.
The midwife was due the Sunday so I thought I'll wait and tell her. I told her and she literally said oh well theres no point us going through the assessment as you're spotting and then she left and said she'll get the hospital to ring me for a scan.
I waited Monday morning and no phone call so I went to A&E sat there for 12hours before finally a gynaecologist assessed me said the cervix was closed and that I will be scanned in the morning.
That's when it was confirmed I had a missed miscarriage.
I just feel so useless and empty - I've had 2 previous late miscarriages at 23 weeks.
Everyone's says it won't happen again after one but its obvious now that something is wrong.

Sorry for the long story - just needed to get it out.

We are strong women for what we have to go through. Sending you luv Xxx

Oh @cherig60 I'm so sorry for your losses, I can't imagine how it must feel losing 2 babies so late on, I hope you have good support. And now your recent mmc, it's just heartbreaking isn't it. You might get referred for the re-occurring miscarriage service I've heard people mention on MN, I think you can be referred after 3 losses.
Please don't blame yourself though. Hopefully we can all support each other through these tough times. Sending love and strength x

So sorry you're all in this horrible situation. I had a MMC in Feb/march of this year and yesterday found out it's another loss, both from IVF. It just feels like it will never happen. It's so frustrating. And what is also incredibly annoying is that the epu insists on scanning my again in a week before allowing me to take the pills to get it over with. I know my dates (because it's IVF) and I've stopped taking progesterone which my body is not producing on its own so there's no way this pregnancy is viable but they are making me wait. The worst thing about IVF is all the waiting now I have to wait to miscarry.

Oh goodness @LillyLeaf how awful for you! It is frustrating how they seem intent on making you wait, I hear so many women saying the same! I'm sure there's good reason behind it but like you say it just adds to the agony. Especially after the ivf you've had. I am so sorry for your losses. Its so hard to think about trying again amidst the pain and loss, but in time you might feel differently. I read on here so many women who've had multiple mc and do go on to have successful pregnancies, but it's a lot to cope with. Sending you love and strength x

Can I join? I had an EMC in January. It was just like a period for me. I’d had several positive tests, booked in for the midwife and then started bleeding. Now it’s nearly 6 months later and every month I go through the same thing. My body tricks me that maybe it will happen that month and every month my period comes. I’m starting to feel like a complete failure.

The whole ordeal was made 1000x worse when someone at work announced her pregnancy yesterday. Now, wherever I go, people are discussing due dates and scan pictures.

Thank you everyone for sharing your stories - you can feel so so alone in this, can’t you?
I had a really nasty mmc last year (my levels didn’t drop as they should due and I ended up with months of treatment and scans, most of which happened in the maternity units of my local hospitals so I was around pregnant women ALL the time. It was awful.)
My period was late this month (8 months after the mmc) but I kind of knew from the start something wasn’t right. I held off testing but got a faint positive the day AF was due on 12-14th June and again for the next few days. Continued to be faint and when I got 2 days of light brown bleeding when I wiped last Wednesday, a few days after AF was due, alongside losing any pregnancy symptoms, I presumed it was another MMC or ‘chemical’ .
But the lines have got progressively darker since last Wednesday when I had the two days of light bleeding and experienced what I thought was the start of the miscarriage. I know it took ages for my levels to drop last time but I did then see the lines getting lighter not darker as they appear to be now.
I’ll try and attach the pictures. Has anyone had any experience of this (a probable second chemical/mmc in a row but lines not fading?)
I can’t get to the doctor til Monday afternoon so won’t get any real answers til then. With my last mmc my levels were 980 when they started dropping. I kept reading about women who’s numbers were in the single digits so this whole thing is confusing me.
The photos show my last 3 days (post bleeding) from left to right.
Grateful for any help.

@JennyMY sorry I can't help with your query personally, but the lines are definitely darker and perhaps you might want to ask your GP for blood tests to check things? Wishing you all the very best, MC is an awful experience which I'm still dealing with myself too

@JennyMY sorry for what you've been through 💕 I had a chemical pregnancy last month. I had positive tests that didn't seem to get darker then my period started late a couple of days after the bleeding started I went to the drs and they Cm firmed it was now negative. Bleeding was heavier than normal for me with clots and worse than normal cramping (and 6 days bleeding instead of my usual 2)
With the lines doing that I'd say you had a bleed which can be normal (some people think they have their period then find out they were pregnant the whole time). With what you went through and just to put your mind at rest if I were you I'd go dr to get bloods done just so you can relax and enjoy but that looks really positive!

Another thing to know that the drs told me is that hpt's check that a minimum amount of hcg is present but don't measure how much. Darkness can be an indicator but its not accurate. 🤞🏻 good luck let us know how you get on

Unfortunately I now need to join this thread. Had an early scan at what should have been 7 weeks which measured smaller than expected but a heartbeat was present so dates where put back a couple weeks and booked a scan for 2 weeks later which was this Sunday, unfortunately this showed no growth and no longer a heartbeat 😢
Had an appointment at the clinic at the hospital today, internal scan confirms no heartbeat and a bleed so looks like my body has figured out what's going on finally as I've had no bleeding at all. I've been booked in for a week to see if it progresses naturally.
This was our first pregnancy and we are both heart broken.
Sorry any of us have to go through this and that there isn't more explanation about why this happens to us.
Look after yourselves ladies xx