2 months after my miscarriage

[Leah0624]

Hey I’ve never used one of these threads before, but I have been really down lately and have no one to talk to about this subject. I’m 25 years old and I miscarried my first child two months ago, the baby’s heart stopped at 8 weeks and I had to have a d and c two days after that. My issue is I’m so sad all the time now, it’s been 2 months and I cry all the time I feel like nothing makes me happy anymore and I’m just angry at everything. Everyone said it would get easier or it was just a miscarriage at least you didn’t lose your real child, which I’m very grateful for, but it was my baby and the minute I saw his/her heart beat I was beyond excited and in love. Everyone acted like I was never pregnant after it happened, I have my fiancé and we have helped each other so much through this, but I can’t seem to stop crying or just feeling so beyond depressed. I’m not really sure how to feel normal anymore. I’m sorry for the rant, just hoping to find someone to talk to who has been through this horrible feeling.

I'm so sorry for your loss OP.
I've had 3 miscarriages and the one thing I can really recommend is counselling. I found a lovely lady who specialises in counselling on fertility/pregnancy issues and it helped me immensely.
It does get easier but it'll take longer than 2 months, you are very much grieving for a real child, the minute you see the positive test line you can see an entire life ahead. You are grieving for that and all of the possibilities. Don't let anyone tell you your baby wasn't real!

Sadly miscarriages are common early on but likely this won't effect your ability to go on and have a healthy child in the future. Allow yourself to grieve, speak to your GP and/or a counsellor but in the meantime be kind to yourself.

So sorry to hear. The same happened to me a few months ago. By the sounds you are needing support. Perhaps start with your GP? They can be a good starting point as for some people they may need counselling. Is there any close friends you can talk to about how you are feeling? I personally found this has been really helpful as a number of my friends have been through it.

Help and support will help you feel stronger and help you heal so that when you feel ready you can try again. Best of luck xxx

So sorry to hear of your loss. I too miscarried on Friday at 10 weeks and am finding it hard. It is my third miscarriage but I did manage to have a dd after the first one. It’s understandable to find it hard because you have lost your hopes and dreams in a child you could imagine. The one thing that gave me comfort is that I would never choose to give up my child and so that decision was taken out of my hands by someone or something bigger than myself. I hope you manage to find the help you need but know that you are not alone in how you are feeling.