Third MC in a row, feeling desperate

[MrsEG]

Hi ladies

I had a MC at 5 weeks in October, and a MMC (blighted ovum) diagnosed at what should have been 8 weeks in Jan, followed by D&C. Took a little while for cycles to get back to normal and I was also extremely depressed. Started again last month and got a BFP just over a week ago but have woken today to huge amounts of blood at exactly 5 weeks so from my experience, I just know it is happening again.

I just feel so sad and so angry. After my MMC I begged for a referral to the recurrent MC unit but they refused and told me I had just been unlucky. We don’t have the funds for private testing. I cannot believe I am now going through this all again.

I am going to go to the EPU today I suppose just as a formality, but I just wondered if anyone has been through similar and knows what I can expect next. I know after 3 losses I will now definitely be referred but I have no idea what tests will happen or how long it all takes. I just feel desperate. 4 of my closest friends have all given birth this year and another three are expecting. I feel like I am broken.

I am so sorry for your losses @MrsEG. Its heartbreaking. I hope you have support from family and friends. Glad you're being seen by epu today. I hope that it isn't bad news today.

Take some time to look after yourself, as much time as you need. I'm having counselling following my mmc and she's encouraging me to focus on what I need rather than trying to do things to make me feel better. You've been through such a lot in a short space of time. Sending love and hugs 💜 xx

Sorry for your losses all so close together. I had a mc at 5 weeks then a mmc at 9 weeks after seeing a heartbeat at 7 weeks that was horrendous. I wish I'd had counselling. I wasn't offered any tests as I already had two older children. However, when I did get pregnant again I was offered two early scans at epu at 8&10 weeks which helped to reassure me.

I also took baby aspirin every day from bfp until 14 weeks which is often recommended for repeat mcs something you might want to try in future? Also ask for progesterone level tests and then if you are low they can give you progesterone boost x

Hey I.am so sorry for your loses :( sending you good vibes.
The GP reffered me quite quickly but the appointment took 2/3 months to come through, then had an amazing amount if bloods done and a scan ..got recommended to take asprin and asked for progesterone pessaries :) my hospital also offered a care plan so everytime I get pregnant I go in every two days for bloods then extra scans etc.. hope this helps :)