4-6 weeks pregnant. Heavy Bleeding. Nothing on scan - awaiting bloods

[Emmaemmaemmaemma]

Hi All, just looking for someone to talk too maybe you’ve been in a similar situation.
6 weeks since last period, maybe 4 weeks pregnant or 6 I think 4 almost 5. I’m fine and healthy but yesterday started bleeding and period type pain, had a scan today they couldn’t see anything so they have taken my bloods and will compare it in two days. I just want this over with. I’m bleeding heavy so I’m devestated nurse said most likely a miscarriage but not 100% I just need some support I’m devestated :(

I don’t have any experience of this, but I just wanted to offer a handhold and let you know I’m thinking of you

Thank you that means so much x

Is this your first baby Emma? It’s almost a mixed blessing that new pregnancy tests mean we can find out we’re pregnant so early on - early miscarriage is incredibly common. Not that that makes it any easier to bear, but maybe it’ll give you comfort that you’re not the only one going through it x

Thank you for the kind message yes first pregnancy I’m so devestated all sorts of thoughts going through my head will I ever have a baby could this baby still be okay? I wish I didn’t have hope to cling onto I wish they had seen on the scan

The waiting and not knowing must be horrible, I really feel for you. Please try not to torture yourself, there is absolutely nothing you can do, and nothing you could have done differently. Miscarriage this early is very unlikely to mean you’ll have problems in the future, so try not to worry about that. Sending you a huge hug - have you got someone with you?

Thanks so much. My hgc is 99 iv just been told she’s expecting it to be more although I’m thinking maybe I could be 4 and a half weeks only . Worst thing is I’m going for blood test Sunday won’t have results til Monday (I’m working so won’t want to know til later on) I’m just hurting so much I know it’s a miscarriage I’m bleeding so heavy . Yes I’m with my partner thank you . I just hope I can have a little one sometime soon :( xxx

It does sound like a miscarriage my love, I’m so sorry - of course I could be wrong, but I think it’s probably best to prepare yourself. I’m glad you’ve got your partner with you, look after each other and take the time you need to grieve your loss. And maybe consider taking the day off work, if you’re feeling so poorly? Sometimes it takes time to conceive, there’s nothing that makes it any easier. Surround yourself with people you love, do your best to be healthy, and stay as positive as you can. Your baby will be so loved and wanted when they finally arrive.

Hi Emma, same situation is happening to me now! Took us 1.5 years to finally fall pregnant. Last month missed period we couldn’t believe it... then at 5 weeks 5 days I started spotting. I went for scan this morning (should be 6 weeks, 3 days by now) but nothing showed on the scan. We have done bloods and got to go back Sunday! It looks like a miscarriage or a possible autopic pregnancy. Feeling devastated right now! Thinking of you at this rubbish time. xxx

@Emmaemmaemmaemma I hope everything's going to be okay for you, so sending hugs.

I'm TTC for my first baby, unfortunately I had a MMC a few weeks ago with my first pregnancy, and I'm not able to start TTC again.

Whatever happens, we're all here for you xxx

That should say 'I am able to TTC again now' - silly iPhone predictive text!

Hi all thank you for the kind replies it makes me feel much better having people to talk too. Sondog thanks for replying to me even though your going through this yourself, my fingers are crossed for you - my bleeding is very heavy I hope yours isn’t that could be a positive sign. Bloods Sunday but no results til Monday. Plattsy fingers crossed for you I hope you get pregnant

Honestly I feel so depressed, cakepigeon your words mean a lot. I’m just scared il never be able to have a baby I know it’s silly but after this (I’m a super healthy person I did everything right) I’m just scared for the future

@Emmaemmaemmaemma I felt like that after my MC, not sure if I'll ever have a baby and I felt like I'd done something wrong. I hadn't, I'm quite healthy myself, I'm a runner and play netball and eat relatively good.

Unfortunately MC is one of those things and it can happen to anyone.

One thing I keep telling myself is that the nurse said to me 'I'm afraid you've lost this baby', she didn't say that I'd lost the ability to have babies. And I hold on to that, and hope that baby no1 will be with me soon.

I’m so sorry for your loss and appreciate the kind words

Today is a bad day. Heavy bleeding can’t stop crying I just want my baby. I’m devestated. Will I ever get over this

@Emmaemmaemmaemma I don't think you'll ever get over it, give yourself some time to grieve the loss. And then you should focus on accepting what's happened and think about what's next.

I myself have accepted that life's shit at times and we can't control it. But what I can control is my positive mental attitude and looking after myself.

I'm now focusing on keeping my mind and my body healthy, so that I can try again and hope for baby no1.

It's not a quick and easy process but I hope you see that there is hope and it's not over for you yet. Sending hugs, we're all here for you xx

Thank you so much it means a lot, you have helped me feel less alone as that’s how iv felt today lots of sympathy but it doesn’t do anything just makes me sadder. My partner is sad but seems to be getting on with it I’m just sat here depressed and crying on and off. The bleeding hasn’t stopped. My hgc was 99 I know it’s stupid but I will get that last blood test tomorrow for closure not that I need it as my boobs aren’t even as sore as they were so I know iv miscarried don’t know why I feel like I need the test. I’m stupid as it was so early but I bought stuff too feel like I cursed it. I hope you get baby number one soon, I will try to have a positive attitude and so I get my baby number one too thank you again you make me feel less alone honestly xxx

Hi @Emmaemmaemmaemma

I'm sorry you are going through this. I am too and was basically at the same no of weeks as you.

No one can tell you how to feel and you don't ever get over any sort of grief and loss, you just learn to live with it. But take it a day at a time and don't worry where you think you should be.

At the mo just listen to your body and rest and give yourself the time you need. I felt a huge need to be on my own at the mo and I'm going with that so that I have space to get upset if I need to. Do what ever you feel you need to.

I found it hard to relate to my parter about it, if you aren't the one having the physical process of it all, it's probably a bit different.

The most important thing is that you aren't alone even if you sometimes feel it

Thankyou, sending loads of hugs your way too. I know it’s too early since I’m bleeding super heavy but I have all these emotions about getting pregnant again and will I just miscarry. I feel like I can’t believe it’s happened to me. I’m in work tomorrow I have no choice :(

Hey @Emmaemmaemmaemma how are you today?

Did you get your bloods back?

Hope you're okay x