2 x TFMR how is this fair

[Piercy]

2016 we had the hard choice to terminate due to a chromosomal defect and the line being used was 'non-life compatible' by the medical experts.

3 years on I pluck up the courage to try again and we've been given the same news, I am just coming up to 15 weeks.

We are lucky we do have one very healthy six year old who is devastated as everything looked OK on the scan.

How do I pick myself up, I have to be strong for DS and DH, DH is devastated as again it is a girl and he would love a little girl.

DH would secretly love to try again but I've been so ill and the tests have been horrific I want to sell all baby stuff and be grateful for our lot.

Hi @Piercy - I am so sorry for what you've been through. I don't have any experience of what you've shared, but I couldn't read your post and not send my heartfelt thoughts. I can understand why you'd consider not putting yourself through that again, but you might feel different in time. With regards to coping with your losses, keep talking to your husband or whoever you feel you can confide in, and maybe consider some counselling? Take care x