Recurrent miscarriages testing

[disconnecteddrifter]

So I had my surgical removal of my third miscarriage yesterday. I'm getting on a bit (41) and the consultant said it's probably just bad luck but he will test the baby. I asked him about tests for me - I had a subchroionic hematoma which I know know is a cause of miscarriage- he said it was the baby coming away that caused it.
I am running out of time and I want to know if to take aspirin - he said not to. If I should take progesterone basically when can I have tests and he said to wait until 6 weeks for my hormones to go back to normal and then he will organise tests.
This has left me torn. I plan to be pregnant before then but also worry if I get pregnant before they test then that also wastes time due to miscarriage again.
Has anyone got any advice?

Hi @disconnecteddrifter - I'm sorry you've been through so much.

I had multiple failed IVF cycles, early miscarriage, chemical pregnancies etc. and I wanted to know what was causing them. What I found is that there are a RIDICULOUS number of tests - it's really hard to know where to focus your time (and money, in my case, as I had to do it privately).

I ended up trying to cover the most common bases:

Hysteroscopy (to check for lining abnormalities - fibroids, polyps etc.)
Immunology testing (to see if my body was attacking the embryos - turns out I have high NK cell activation)
MTHFR and C4M4 tests (genetic mutations)
DH had sperm fragmentation testing
I also had an endometrial scratch during the hysteroscopy as it can help implantation.

Is your consultant NHS or private?

I understand it's incredibly frustrating for you but I would listen to your consultant when he says you need to let your body get back to normal. Every day is an eternity in this game - I get it, I'm currently 5+5 and in agony wondering if it's viable - but giving yourself the best chance possible next time probably involves that up-front investment 💐

Thank you so much for replying. I'm with the nhs and I guess That's why they arent testing everything if there are so many. I'm so sorry for your difficult journey and I hope you have good news soon.

Maybe I should go private - i need to look up costs and what's available in the area. I can get pregnant and keep them to 6-8 weeks so think it is an age thing but lots of my friends, some who are older are managing to.
It's so hard already for me I don't know if I can go through it again but can't not have a baby either x

It could well be an age issue - I'm 39 and have premature ovarian failure so use donor eggs in my IVF cycles, but I do know that even if I weren't infertile, my own eggs would be a lot fewer and poorer quality than when we're younger. For this reason, egg donors must be under 35 as a poor quality egg can result in a miscarriage due to chromosomal abnormalities.

Have you considered a private consultation at a clinic that specialises in recurrent miscarriage? The initial investment of a couple of hundred quid might be well worth it.

Sorry - I've just seen that you're considering private consultations! I wish you lots of luck 💐

Thank you - a couple of hundred is doable I was worried it might be thousands. I will google and find one. Because of my age I don't want to wait around
Thank you