Miscarriage at 11 weeks pregnant

[chazzy666]

Oh where to start. My husband and I had only been trying for one month and fell pregnant and when I look back there was always problems. My husband went through testicular cancer and had one removed and chemotherapy so we had to wait for his levels to recover. So once I was pregnant I felt all the usual stuff but I was bleeding slightly so we went for an early scan at 7 weeks and told all was good and saw heartbeat. Felt better but continued to bleed slightly for further weeks but still felt pregnant. At 11 weeks so last Thursday I was walking to work and felt a massive rush of liquid and was soaked in blood so called to get a lift to hospital. I called early pregnancy clinic and they told me to monitor but I didn't feel right so went to a and e and they took me to the EPC for examination and we waited an hour with other happy couples for a scan. As soon as they turned the screen away I knew it was gone. I felt so angry at myself and at her for telling me. I have never felt so hopeless. They wanted to keep me in but I said I wanted to go home. They gave no word of what was going to happen next. I went through a 24 hour labor and delivery. Every three minutes for 24 hours. Bleed seems to have stopped for now. I want to try again as soon as I get a negative test result. Today I feel a bit lost but I can see the light. Taking it one day at a time. X

One day at a time lovely. I was 10 weeks with a very similar story to you, 4 weeks ago now. My bleeding stopped after a week and now just waiting for the first period. OH doesn’t know if he wants us to try again... I feel like I need a definite answer, I don’t like being out of control.

I’m glad you can see a light xx

@Avf88 thank you for replying it's nice to hear I'm not alone x

It’s a shit situation to share but sadly it does help knowing it’s not just you. I think people who haven’t experienced it can easily say the wrong thing so it’s sometimes nicer to talk to people who get it xx

I feel so embarrassed and stupid and disappointed. I wasn't hurting anyone else and I just don't understand why. I feel like My body just rejected it and I'm left to just deal with it. Everyone has been kind I just feel like everyone is talking about me and all I want is to be pregnant again. I hate seeing my body coz it reminds me that I was pregnant and now I'm not. I'm not doing well this evening

Oh hun I have been through the same thing when I was told I lost my baby at 12 weeks I couldn’t be out of there quick enough but first I had to talk to see some sort of dr but he didn’t once tell me what would happen to me I didn’t know I would go home only the next time I would be in hospital I would be giving birth to my baby that I just lost I’m so sorry you have been through this they should make it known That this is a possibility at this stage😭it took me three months to conceive again after the loss of that baby try not to think about getting pregnant to much that was my mistake the first couple of months as soon as I relaxed a bit and stopped stressing I convinced I think the stress of always thinking about it makes you less likely to get pregnant

@Roxy933
I'm trying to stay calm I just feel lost. It helps to be here though. So much pain but I have said good-bye. Good moments and bad throughout each day

I cried because I could do up my work trousers last week (any normal week that’d be amazing!) I’d been so bloated in my last couple of weeks. I totally get the body thing. And what @Roxy933 said about trying again, we can’t put too much pressure on ourselves straight away. Got to make sure we are ok first. Need to tell myself that about 100 times a day

@Avf88 very true my feelings are not reliable yet . Not sure where i am.

@Rainbow8bubbles like you said in your first post, one day at a time. Sometimes might have to be one hour at a time...

Hi hun ,

I went through similar just over 4 weeks ago now , I lost my baby at 14 weeks.

Giving birth to my little one was so traumatic and I've only just started to feel a little more normal whatever normal is .

My bleeding stopped after about a week and a bit

My first period still hasn't come I've had some spotting but nothing much and defo feel as if I'm going to come on

Like you we are keen to try again , so just wanting my first period so I know what my cycle is doing .

Everything I've read suggest 4-6 weeks for the first period but I'm not sure what everyone's average is if I'm honest .

Sending you lots of love I know how hard it is xxxxx

It's amazing how so many people are going through the same thing at the same time and we don't know. Thank you all for sharing your stories I don't feel so alone. It's still hard though.

Don't let anyone tell you when you "should" be over it, you have to deal with this in your own time and your own way. Be kind to yourself and allow yourself to grieve.