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Mampark · 25/04/2019 15:40

Hi. I just wanted to share my story in the hope of helping someone else who may find themselves in a situation similar to me.
I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks pregnant. I had been spotting light pink and brown blood for a week or so prior which I wasn't concerned about after reading online, however was concerned when I passed bright red blood with tiny clots on Friday - image attached for ref. The next day I visited a medical professional who did a scan and confirmed there was no heartbeat. My cramps and pains started around 9pm that night, approx 24 hours after first seeing the red blood. What followed next was 2 days of extremely heavy bleeding, painful cramps and the passing of big, jelly like purple blood clots (some were the size of my fingers). Understandably, when I seen these initially I panicked, however was told by my mum (& later by medical staff) that these are completely normal. I eventually passed the sac which was solid and cell like in comparison to any of the blood clots on the Monday afternoon. It is now Thursday, the cramping has eased off however I am still bleeding.
I wanted to share my story, as there isn't enough 'real' ones out there of what you will pass and when. I live alone (and am not with the father) so I was scared and cried when it started. If you have any doubts or concerns, get them checked out ASAP.
If they give you the bad news that nobody wants to hear, if possible, ask a friend to come over (or go to theirs) - it truly is an awful experience to go through alone.
The bleeding is HEAVY - you will go through a thick pad in about 10 mins when it is in full swing so I fully suggest having an excess of them to hand.
Physically, I am now on the mend, but emotionally not - I just hope that passes with time.

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jackstini · 25/04/2019 15:44

So sorry for your loss, it's an awful thing to happen
The feelings do change with time, mine happened over 10 years ago
Be very kind to yourself Flowers

You may want to put a trigger warning in your thread post because of the blood, sorry

Mampark · 25/04/2019 15:50

Thanks for your reply, I wasn't expecting one so soon! :)

I think I just needed a place to vent (and hopefully help someone else).

Of course, I didn't think! How do I do that? :)

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jackstini · 25/04/2019 20:43

I think you can message MN or report your own thread to have it added

Venting is important and so is sharing. It's definitely not spoken about enough

DieCryHate · 26/04/2019 15:34

I am so sorry for your loss and thank you for sharing your story.

After a bleak scan on Tuesday with a follow up booked for next week, my bleeding started last night but has tapered off. I'm getting sharp shooting pains now though so I am assuming this may be the start of the nitty gritty. Thanks to yours and other people's advice on here I have stocked up on pads, pants and painkillers for the inevitable. Honesty is so important with these matters.

I hope you are on the mend physically and mentally soon.

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