Tablets or surgery

[Chanel05]

Hi I wondered if anyone can help me. I've had a mmc and am due to have tablets tomorrow. From what I've read it sounds like a horror movie. If anyone has had surgery before (I'd want to be put under as I think I'd panic with a d&c) can you tell me your experiences. Thank you.

I've had both, a long time apart. The tablets are painful. I didn't find the blood, passing part horrific, just the pain was pretty awful., it is okay if you can take the strong painkillers they prescribe. I just had trouble keeping them down.

The surgical one was a long time ago. I had a GA and was pretty sleepy afterwards and still had cramps, but it was okay.

@Chanel05 I'm so sorry to hear this.

I had a MMC in December. I opted for tablets because I had never been under before and was petrified. The tablets, however, didn't work (had them twice) so it was surgery or wait it out. I opted for surgery and was a complete mess the morning of it and very emotional. I even refused to have the drip put in my hand and they had to put me to sleep with gas. In the end it was absolutely fine, very little pain after and the staff were great. If it happens to me again I will definitely go for surgery straight away.

Good luck xx

Thank you both for your experiences. What about a d&c under local?

@Chanel05 I didn't know they did them under local. I'd request general if you can xxx

I had a mmc last June at 14 weeks and was booked in for surgery, you still have to take the 2 tablets on your way to the hospital to dilate the cervix, in my circumstance I was left waiting too long (surgeon was late) so my surgical turned into medical when the tablets fully kicked in about an hour and half later. My waters went which nobody prepared me for and it was the most traumatic event of my life I would much rather of had surgery, they would only let me have paracetamol and ibuprofen and I had severe pains, blood loss on a day ward which was humiliating and very unsupported. I could of still ended up in surgery as they were scared of retained products but had a scan which showed all clear. Feel free to pm me for details. However I'm now 37 weeks pregnant! Take care of yourself xxx

My advice would be to wait for it to happen naturally. It's a strange and sad feeling waiting - it took about 2 weeks from finding out for me. But I was at home and relieved my body dealt with it on its own. I was sooooo stressed about tablets/surgery and made the decision just to wait after an incredibly kind junior doctor took a few minutes out to have a really good chat with me about it all. Take care, whichever way you deal with it you'll be ok xx

Mine happened naturally too. I had surgery scheduled but earliest date was 10 days away. It happened by itself in this time. I was 11 weeks but stopped growing at 8 weeks so still quite small. Painful for a couple of hours. Totally able to cope at home.

How many weeks are you?
I would take the D&C as at least you're usually offered testing to see if there was a reason for things going wrong.

God this is going to sound awful but if you do it at home everything just gets flushed away. My last loss was done in the hospital and the hospital actually arranged a memorial funeral service a couple of months later (that's their standard policy that you have to sign to say what you want to happen with the remains) and I was only 7 weeks at the time. At least I have a lovely garden to visit now when i need to

I have also done natural miscarriages at home of pregnancies up to 12 weeks and yes they are awful, terrifying and very very lonely - you don't know what is "normal" in terms of bleeding and pain and so you worry about whether you should be going to hospital but then the thought of bleeding in a&e with loads of random people around has always put me off going
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I chose surgery and am glad I did. Yes it's taking me a while to recover from the exhaustion from the general, but it has been pretty clean and painless physically. Only bled lightly for a week, although everyone is different.
Personally, I chose that due to having had ptsd after delivering my healthy daughter naturally a few years ago and going through the same process but without a baby at the end of it would most likely have brought that all back. They offered me a local option too, but again I refused due to not wanting to go through the process awake.
Before surgery I actually started to want to do it all myself naturally, but I'm glad I didn't. Whatever option you go with, it will pass, and the roller-coaster of emotions will slow down over the next few weeks. Take care of yourself.

Thanks for your posts. After a lot of googling I decided that I couldn't go through with the tablets and have chosen to have surgery instead.

Take care of yourself xxx