Miscarriage and work?

[PinkFizz19]

Hello ladies

We sadly MC last week our first pregnancy at what should have been nearly 7 weeks. We are devastated and December will not be the same this year knowing our baby would have been due then.

I had last week off sick from work due to the bleeding and being in limbo as to whether it was a MC or not. It took 3 hospital visits in 3 days, internal scans, internal investigations and HCG bloods to confirm this. I'm not discharged from the hospital yet and need to go back for more bloods today. I'm just wondering how long you all took off work to recover if you don't mind me asking? My bleeding seems to have stopped (for now) however I'm not sure whether I want to go back just yet and whether I'll be able to concentrate. On the other hand it will help to take my mind off things?

Any thoughts?

Sending love and luck to all using this section ❤😘 xxx

I'm sorry @PinkFizz19.

I miscarried a couple of weeks ago but knew from 15 March that things weren't progressing well. I was off work from then and went back on 11 April, so a month in all. I only miscarried on 4 April which was confirmed by scan on 10 April and in hindsight probably should have had another week, I was very emotional when I went back. Luckily my manager and team have been very supportive letting me to flexible hours.

I think having a purpose to get up and ready has helped, I don't think sitting at home was that great for me but I have struggled to settle back into things.

I was due 2 November, my favourite time of year with bonfire night 😢 so sorry this happened to you 💔❤️ xxx

I have suffered several miscarriages and had to juggle work - luckily I can work from
Home and did so whilst the bleeding was at its worst. I've always opted for natural
Miscarriage in the past so other than my ruptured ectopic I was generally home for around a week for each one. Then I'd go back to work as I didn't feel being at home on my own was good for my mental or emotional health and needed to be around people and get back to a routine.

However I have read that legally under pregnancy employment law that you are protected 2 weeks after a miscarriage for time off work if you need to be signed off

Hi all sorry to hear of your pain I'm going through mmc and have been off for almost a month. Start to bleed 9/4 actually started to muscarry 18/4 couldn't have gone to work from the 18th to today too much pain, blood and "material" I'm so sorry and hope you won't have to wait so long. It's very boring and traumatising being at home for so long when your used to working but then I'm due back tomorrow and dreading it x take care xxx

Thanks ladies. I got really upset Monday morning over something small so thought it best I don't go back to work just yet. The hospital were great and gave me a sick note for a week. They offered me 2 weeks but I do want to get back into routine soon otherwise the longer I leave it I know I won't want to go back at all.

I didn't want to go into work and not be able to concentrate or be getting upset as I often suffer anxiety with work anyway so hopefully after the weekend I'll be feeling more myself again.

Hope you all are ok as possible now ❤ xxx

I found out no heartbeat 30/3 and haven't been back to work yet so don't worry everyone is different, I went back last week 15/4 but on the Thursday everything kicked off. The hospital has given me a note for two weeks again yesterday but I am going to try go back in the morning.

I've cried everyday for the last month almost. I haven't made it to lunchtime yet and worry if I need to drink extra water for all the tears haha god I hope my sense of humour doesn't disappear among all this pain.

Take care pinkfizz and do whatever you need xxx

I miscarried last month and ended up ring off work for a month. I started bleeding and had a scan which showed an empty sac, I thought I was 11 weeks and knew my dates were not that far out. I had another scan a week later which showed the sac had increased in size. I was bleeding more and D cramps. I ended up having surgical intervention and had bleeding for 2 weeks after.
I would say don't rush back to work xx

I had an early miscarriage (5 weeks) and just carried on, I think I found it better not to be at home. It depends a lot on you and your body.

I would say every miscarriage is different and everyone reacts differently, so you need to work out what's best for you. First MMC I was off from when they said no heartbeat anymore until I'd finished bleeding - about two weeks. I ended up in A&E with that one, so I couldn't have gone back any earlier.

Second MMC I took one day off, when it actually happened. I know I haven't been giving 100% at work, but for me this time it's better. It's still raw though and I haven't dealt with the emotional side of it as well as last time.

I got fired today girls be carful who you work for and what you reveal x take care xxx

Are you in the UK @Lovestruk? That's discrimination, it's pregnancy related and I read on these boards that employees have 2 weeks legal protection if off sick related to miscarriage. I'm sorry that's happened to you xx

Ireland @VenusStarr thanks but at lest I know kind of ppl they are now xxx

I worked during my miscarriage on Christmas Day and then continued to work pretty much non stop for nearly a month after that. I stupidly thought that by continuing to push and push myself I'd somehow forget it ever happened. Err wrong no I didn't!! I just ended up having a nervous breakdown and getting signed off from work for 2 weeks with stress related issues.

@VenusStarr thanks for commenting I just reread your earlier post and I'm sorry for your loss seems it was very drawn out too, I hope your ok xxx

That's awful @Lozz22 hope you are doing better now, sorry for you loss xxx

I found out there was no heart beat on the Tuesday. Went to work the following day. Booked in for medical management (unsuccessful) the following Monday and stayed in overnight. So back into work again the Wednesday. Had a big bleed the Friday at work and went back to hospital. Stayed in again most of the weekend back at work Tuesday.
Self employed though, so couldn't afford to be off.

@Lovestruk thank you, sorry to hear about yours too. I'm ok now thank you being back at work for a couple of months. Sorry to hear about your job as well are you in a union at all? If not it might be worth while getting in touch with ACAS especially if it was an unfair dismissal. Hopefully if are with a union they won't be as useless as what mine were When I needed them 5 years ago in my old job they didn't even bother turning up to any of the meetings so I got dismissed. Wasn't a bad thing though because I absolutely love the job I do now and I hated the one I got sacked from xxx

Haha worked out for the best then @Lozz22

It is unfair dismissal but as I said at least I know what kind they are. And I know he would say it was still probation or some crap to worm out if it.

Who are ACAS? Are they Irish and no im not in a union. I almost laughed when he rang me at the sheer apathy and his cold demeanour but instead I cried not because I love the job but because some ppl are horrible money hungry heartless pigs. I would love to name and shame but that would out me but I'm not really bothered about that tbh some ppl on here seem to be but not me I'm very honest and I think anything I've said on here I'm not ashamed of I've come here to be honest and get advise through a really tough time and ppl have been great and I'm very happy I did come on in the first place because I don't know if I would have made it through without having an outlet. I'm glad your doing better and thanks for your advice means a lot to me having the support xxx

Sorry to hear of your loss @Spicypizza xxx

@Lovestruk no they're uk based but I'm sure they'll be something similar in Ireland xxx