Keeping baby clothes from miscarried pregnancy?

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Just a quick one really. We lost our little one about a month ago and have just started to sort out the things we bought. We are trying again so my mum has suggested buying some nice storage boxes and keeping them at her house (just so I don't get upset looking at them) we also have a brand new bouncer and nursery accessories. My DH agrees with her and so do I. But part of me is thinking that it won't feel right putting another baby (when I finally get pregnant again) in the clothes and bouncer etc that was meant for our first little DC. Am I being silly? Is it just because I'm still grieving that I feel like this? My question is, did you keep the things that you bought before having a miscarriage?? If you've had a DC since, did it feel weird or upsetting using the things? I don't want to give all of our lovely things away as I picked them all because I loved them and overall they did cost a lot of money.

Thank you xx

Firstly , I'm sorry for your loss.

We lost a baby shortly after the 20 week scan a few years ago and initially I couldn't look at any of the the things we bought for our baby girl. We put everything in storage and waited to see how we felt.

Six months later we were lucky enough to be given another chance , we now have a son. To be honest , the items that we 'just picked up' like plain sleepsuits and fitted sheets etc , we used those for our son. However there was a hat that we picked for our daughter shortly after the dating scan , we couldn't see another baby in that hat so we put it in her memory box. Ditto a blanket that a friend bought us for her. Everything else just felt like generic baby stuff that we were buying from a check list , we used all of those things for our son.

Just give it time , you'll come to a decision after grieving for your lost baby.

And nothing you feel is at all silly.

You're not being silly. I miscarried twins at 19 weeks in January and we'd bought a fair few clothes and nappies. We're TTC again from this month and have decided to keep the clothes we'd bought. We did take some back to shops after I lost the babies but it crucified us and we couldn't face returning any more. We had a girl and a boy so have both sets of clothes and hope to use them for a survivng child(ren) in the near future.

It's EXTREMELY hard to look through the things we'd bought but somehow keeping them gives me comfort and I couldn't bare to part with them. I just hope we have a little person who can wear at least some of them, soon. Any we don't use will be donated to charity. We've put the nappies in the loft where they're out of sight.

It's entirely up to you and how you feel - there's no right or wrong answer. I really am truly very sorry for your loss .

@GlossyTaco @Squiff70 thank you so much for getting back to me. I'm very sorry that you have both been through this, it truly is awful. I think you're right about keeping the generic things. All our stuff is unisex so we will defo get use out of it if we choose to in the future. We have a little 'born in 2019' baby grow, which we will obviously not be using for another baby now (I don't think) so I think that's one for the memory box, or I have a friend that can make it into a bear for me which would be nice.

It's so reassuring to hear that I'm not the only one who feels like this, I honestly felt silly even mentioning it to people but now I know it's completely normal.

Again, thanks both for your messages, I hope you're both never in a horrible situation like this again. 💞xxx