Missed miscarriage - when will I feel better?

[KDM73]

Hi,

This is the first time I’ve posted anything here but I’d really appreciate some advice.

I had a missed miscarriage 3 1/2 weeks ago; me and my husband found out at our scan - at what should have been 11/12 weeks - that the baby had died a few weeks before. I waited a week to miscarry naturally then tried medical management and eventually D&C. This all went on for 2 weeks during which I was really upset and distressed. I had 3 weeks off work, between annual leave and sick leave.

I suppose I’d just like to hear other people’s stories and how they felt. I felt awful during the 2 weeks waiting to miscarry/hospital input then felt like the ‘dark cloud’ lifted a little a few days after the D&C. However, I’ve been back to work 3 days now and feel really low/tearful/no motivation. I have a difficult public facing job which makes it really difficult as I have to perform every day. I’ve read other posts where people go back to work days after miscarrying and wonder if I’m over-reacting?! I feel better at home, although not my usual self, and wonder if I’m just getting into a negative way or thinking or if how I’m feeling is normal?

Thanks

I'm sorry for your loss. I've had multiple miscarriages, my first being a mmc at 11 weeks also so I know how horrible it is. I went back to work a few days after I had a D&C and was exactly the same as you. I now realise I went back too soon. I was trying to put a brave face on but it's actually quite exhausting pretending to be 'ok' all day. I've just had another miscarriage recently and this time I took 3 weeks off work. I feel much better for having taken the time to just be myself and not having to put on a brave face. I went back to work today. It was hard but ok and I felt ready. If you're struggled then I would suggest you get signed off for a bit. You've been through a horrible loss and you need time to grieve. It does get better over time but it's important you look after yourself during this tough time.