Missed miscarriage and trying again - success stories.

[Mochiface]

Hi all,

I'm back on again. Sorry if I haven't replied or anything but the past month has been hectic. So for those who don't know, I've recently had my third miscarriage, and it was a missed miscarriage.

Around two weeks ago, I was admitted into hospital because they realise from the embryo testing that there was no embryo, which I was devastated about.. after my third miscarriage and purposely opted for medical management, the hospital didn't catch the baby.. the reason I was admitted into hospital as I had a very high temperature that didn't budge and they thought it was sepsis. So I did all sorts of test and internal scan which made me relive the moment of having my scans when I was pregnant. All of a sudden I started crying whilst having the internal scan and I didn't even know why. The sonographer was lovely and she understood why .

Anyways, I finally stopped bleeding after seven weeks and I'm ready to try again.

Just wanted to know how long did you bleed for after a missed miscarriage and when did you try again, and any successes?

Following with interest. Just coming to the end of my first miscarriage. Sorry to hear what you’ve been through. Fingers crossed for us both x

It is very hard. I'm still bleeding from my MC and would love to hear some positive, success stories too. Big hug to you both.

I had an ERPC after a MMC was discovered at 12 weeks with my first pregnancy. I can't remember how long I bled for - it was almost 9 years ago - and it took 12 months to get pregnant again but my ovaries are crap and don't work well. It took 18 months to get pregnant in the first place so it was a devastating blow to go to the first scan and find no healthy baby.

However I did go on to have two DC, then another miscarriage, and my last DC. So five pregnancies and three live births.

Infertility and loss suck. I'm so sorry

I had a mmc this time 2 years ago.
I had a very stressful, unsuccessful and drawn out medically managed miscarriage at 14 weeks (finally).
I waited for my first period and then tried again. Fell pregnant the September and now have my wonderful 10 month old dd.

So sorry

Watching with interest. Fell pregnant after only 3 months trying.. miscarried recently at 6 weeks. Too good to be true, I suppose. Still struggling to come to terms with the loss, but putting on a front to others and remaining hopeful. Have been told mixed things about trying again - mainly that you tend to be more fertile straight after and waiting for your next period is only for the dating reasons. We both want to try again as soon as possible, but i came to the decision I want to wait for my period first but I think I will be very anxious next time.

Sending hugs x

Hi everyone, I'm so sorry for your losses, I'm so so sorry. I fell pregnant for the first time last July after trying for six months, we were delighted. We found out the baby didn't have a heartbeat at a 10 week reassurance scan and stopped developing at 8+4. We were heartbroken. I opted for ERPC and the whole experience really broke me - but the NHS and our friends and family were so supportive. I know its different to a medical management but I bleed for about 10 days after my opt.

I was told to not try again until after my first period - one for the emotional side of things i think but mainly so its easier to manage dates if i fell pregnant again that first month. Emotionally we were only ready to try after three months or so. Personally I'm so pleased we gave ourselves that time to grieve and feel like normal before starting to start again. They say you can be super fertile for the 6 or so months after a pregnancy (something about all the natural fertility hormones that linger). I don't know if thats technically true but we fell pregnant the first month we tried - we couldn't believe it happened so quickly this time!

We are 17 weeks pregnant now - and we've had two scans already. Each scan I've been close to tears hoping and praying that its a good scan and they'll find a heartbeat. The relief is immense and so worth the nervousness of trying again.

There are positive outcomes, it does happen. Please don't give up hope for your rainbow baby. I'll never forget my first baby (my due day is next week and feeling so sad about it) but I can't wait to meet this baby. Sending you all hugs and love xx

I had an mmc in 2016 (picked up at 12 weeks, baby was 8 weeks). Chose surgical management but miscarried naturally the night before surgery. Bled (tapering from heavy to quite light and brownish) up until my next period, and once that period had finished I stopped bleeding. We didn't try again for a few cycles. Got pregnant again around a year later and now have a toddler.

I had a mmc in August 2017 and found out at the 12 week scan. I'd had a scan at 8 weeks, and saw the baby's heartbeat, and he/she was measuring spot on for 8 weeks, so it was a huge shock. I had an ERPC two days after finding out, and bled for around 2-3 weeks, although I continued to get random spotting for a while. I had a BFP in November 2017, and had DD in July 2018. Really sorry for your loss. It's hard .

HI,

I had 3 dc then 2 MMC both ended with erpc. Horrible and traumatic.

2 yrs later I was pg again, thought it was all going wrong again. Went for a scan and saw a heartbeat. I cried too. The sonographer showed me my notes on my previous MMC which I hadnt seen , it was good to be filled in with little bits of info regarding those very short pregnancies. I think it helped with closure for losing them at only 6 weeks.
I went on to have my DD ( I was 43 by then too!)

I later got pg again!! but sadly mc at 12+6 the date before my scan was due. (again a MMC at 6wks) Worst thing I was in hosp and I felt the sac/fetus plop down the toilet. (I've never shared that as most people would think its gross and no one EVER talks about MC).

I had to have erpc for this too as I was retaining tissue in the c/s scar or something.

I know how emotionally consuming it is ttc after mc. The highs and lows and the fear and strain on a relationship.
I felt that thinking, if it happens it happens, if it doesn't, then it wasn't meant to be was the only way I could cope with the losses and the knowledge I could have no more.

We had no time scale on when to plan to conceive just went about things normally without trying I think it took the pressure off and therefore there was no great expectation or disappointment each month.

Good luck to you all.

How long after mc did you have your first period? It's been 4 weeks now so expecting it to be soon.. though I think I read it could be up to 6 weeks after? I suppose it's different for all, but would be nice to know.

I got pg straight away without a period after my first MMC . BUt I miscarried, but after that I had a period prob about 6 weeks after. I didnt bleed for long after MMC as I had an erpc and that kind of cleared me out :)

So sorry to you all for your losses. It’s cruel and heartbreaking.

I have a mmc at 6 weeks picked up at the 12 week scan, then went on to have dd shortly afterwards. Then last year I had 3 mc’s and didn’t think it would happen again for us, but I’m now pregnant with dc2 and it’s been the most uneventful straightforward pregnancy so far. I can hardly believe it, and like you all I’m sure the anxiety will never really leave me throughout this pregnancy. Don’t give up hope.