Feeling totally let down by DP

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I don't normally complain about my DP but I need somewhere to vent right now.

Today is my daughters 2nd birthday, we lost her 2 years ago today. I went into labour at nearly 22 weeks.

He has literally sat in the bedroom playing xbox all day, apart from the occasional trip downstairs to make a coffee. I've been spending the day making her a cake, I did this last year aswell as I feel like I should be doing something for her and it gives our DS's the chance to blow her candles out for her and for us to have a moment to think about her as a family.

DP has shown no interest for the day at all, or for me I'm clearly a bit emotional. Is it too much to expect him to turn the bloody Xbox off and spend the day with me respecting our daughter? I never thought he would do this. I feel so alone today and he's supposed to be the person that shares this heartache with me. He's really let me down😢

I don't mean to sound all me, me, me but as I say it's a really lonely feeling.

I didn’t want to read an run. I’m so sorry loosing your daughter like that must be heartbreaking. It sounds like you are doing a lovely thing to remember her. My only thought about your dp is that perhaps he doesn’t know how to cope and is really sad to so is shutting himself away. Have you spoken to him about why he is doing this? Xx

Thank you, it's really heartbreaking. I can't say it's gotten any easier. I've not spoken to him about it because I don't want to cause an argument. He's been obsessed with a new game for the last week, I think it's just taken priority and he won't think he's done anything wrong. He came down and done the cake with me and the kids then cut himself a slab of it and took it back upstairs with him. My eldest got a little upset so I've been seeing to him and that's about it really. It's the day practically over, and I don't feel like much time has really been spent making it about her, well not together anyway.