Struggling with the reality that we can’t just think again

[Holly19]

I had my fourth miscarriage two weeks ago - needed to have a D&C.

Physically I feel fine. Unfortunately my husband got ill just as we found out about the last pregnancy and due to chemo we had to bank sperm. He is already better again but has been left with no fertility.

I noticed signs of ovulation this morning and I just burst in to tears. The only thing that made my previous miscarriages more manageable was the idea that we could just try again but now that’s been taken from us.

We have been desperate for a baby for theee years. Suffered multiple miscarriages and now our chance at parenthood is down to to NHS and waiting times. I just don’t know what to do or what to focus on to pick myself up. It all feels so unfair

I’m so sorry, what an awful time you have gone through. I am recovering from my second mmc in a row and we also have infertility issues which makes ttc difficult. I know all of this has come as a huge shock but the fact you have conceived is very promising, and that you are eligible for ivf. I’m not sure about your area but when our referral came through our appointing was within three weeks, we were accepted immediately and our appointment to start the whole process was 6 weeks later. Have you been investigated for your recurrent miscarriages? I am seeing the specialist before we have ivf, and the fertility team agreed. I would speak to your GP about what’s best in your situation. I know how hard it is because all you want is to be pregnant again, but I really think the GP could give you more information so you have a plan going forwards.

I am so sorry to hear about you miscarriages and your husband! I have had three miscarriges so I know how unfair it is. Hopefully the waiting time is short. Big hug