I think I’m miscarrying again

[Neverbroken]

I would be 10 weeks today, my breast pain has come and gone over the past weeks aswell as nausea. I broke out in spots with this pregnancy, bloating and been very emotional, the only thing that has gotten me through without going to get a scan is pressing the side of my boobs reassuring myself everything is okay. Even if the sides didn’t hurt the underneath did. Tonight the sides stopped, now the underneath has too. They have also dropped and don’t have the swollen full look I’ve had for the past weeks not to mention now I’m having sharp little pains in the uterus area not like stretching or cramping pain. I remember this feeling right before I had my last scan in my last pregnancy with no heartbeat. I’m so scared right now and panicking. My first midwife appointment was supposed to be today, now I’m in tears thinking the worst, I can’t go through this again.

OP, that sounds so tough.

Obviously, I can't tell what is happening. But what I can say is that my pregnancy symptoms came and went during the first trimester. There were times when I felf awful, and other times I had no symptoms at all, during which I would be terrified I had miscarried. In the event, all was fine and my DD is now 3.5.

I hope all is well for you and LO too. Is somebody with you?

I’m so sorry, OP. I don’t have any advice but didn’t want to just read and run. Hopefully other people will be able to advise. I can offer a virtual hand to hold if that helps?

I’m by myself, I just don’t get what I’ve done wrong I haven’t drank alcohol, no caffeine, no smoking, taking pregnacare kept stress to the very minimum what more can I do?

I didn’t even tell work until last week and that’s because I have the appointment tomorrow. My team leader came over today and was so excited for me and I got excited too even said I was going to try and go for a private scan on the weekend. I’m at work for 8 and can’t even sleep.

Thank you for your virtual hand, I need it ❤️ It just all seems like a sick joke

Oh love, you haven't done anything wrong. You truly couldn't have done more. But we don't know yet that there is anything wrong. I can totally understand why you would fear the worst, though.

Is there anybody you could call? I know it's late, but eg the baby's father? I think you could do with some RL support.

We had a horrible argument tonight and he’ll be asleep as he’s got work early aswell. I remember the last time telling friends & him & the midwives it was going wrong and nobody listened until I got the private scan myself. It’s so horrible I don’t want to see that again.

That sounds heartbreaking, never.

Can you crawl into bed with him and try and get some rest? Hard, I know.

I’m going to lie down but doubt I’ll sleep, thank you for listening. If everything hasn’t happened by the weekend I’m going to try and get a scan but I’m not optimistic at all. The midwife said on the phone I won’t get a scan until 2 weeks no point in getting so excited to get bad news.

I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for you never

@Neverbroken I don't know what to say, but I was so heartbroken to read your post and I really really hope everything is ok. You deserve better than this and you didn't do anything wrong. My mmc at 12 weeks turned out to be a partial molar pregnancy, so it was doomed from conception and all of my healthy habits couldn't save my baby. It is out of our control. Take care of yourself and let us know how you get on xxx.

Currently waiting for the midwife scared to even tell them of my concerns as no one listened the last time. I’m so sorry to hear about your molar pregnancy & sending you love ❤️ Still had the little pains today, phoned the private clinic they’re pretty much fully booked apart from Friday evening which I can’t do as I have to work until 8 so pretty much stuck in the unknown. I don’t actually know what is worse the not knowing or getting a scan and seeing no heartbeat. They’ve put me on the cancellation list for Saturday. If I get an appointment I won’t even be able to look at the screen.

Sweetheart, if you are miscarrying, I promise that it is not caused by anything you have done. I have had a fair few losses and it has always been because the pregnancy was doomed from the start (ectopic, or an abnormality that meant it could never have been a baby).

I can also tell you that as my pregnancies progressed (the viable ones) it was normal for my symptoms to come and go. I remember prodding my breasts for reassurance in my first pregnancy, only to find they were no longer sore, and then a couple of days later the soreness came back. I thought maybe it was my body getting used to the hormones and my levels then increasing.

Have you got a local NHS early pregnancy unit you can go to? This is normally separate from the midwives and they are there for emergencies in early pregnancy (until the midwives take over)? They would usually scan a woman in pain, although you may have to wait a while to be seen. Better I think than paying for a scan in these circumstances.
I hope you get good news.

I was sent for a "reassurance" scan for this pregnancy at 8 weeks as had a previous MMC and had bled at 5 weeks with this one. They were really helpful and called me and said they would scan me at 8 weeks.

My boobs went from tender to not from day to day. If you are worried please call your nearest EPU they will try and help X x

Thinking of you Never and hoping for the very best

Hey! Just wanted to update you guys I went for a scan a couple of weeks ago and was 10 weeks (private scan but they said due to how far gone I was should be quite accurate.) I got to see the heartbeat at first I was scared to look but once I saw it I couldn’t stop looking. Got dating scan with NHS tomorrow excited and nervous. Probably the healthiest I’ve ever been in my life with all the fruit and veg I'meating. I’ve joined the gym although haven’t quite found the energy to go yet. Thank you for all your support it is truly appreciated ❤️