I'm heartbroken. Mc no. 3

[OhDiddums]

Hey guys,

Not really sure what I'm hoping for. Today I should have been 7 weeks pregnant. The spotting started yesterday and is getting heavier. 😔 I just can't believe our luck. I was feeling so positive this time. I just feel so useless. No point going to the hospital or epu for them to tell me what I already know. I just feel like a disappointment.

I am so sorry to hear what your going through. :-( I am going though the same thing but I am having D&C. You shouldn't blame yourself. You couldn't have done anything to prevent this. I know it is unfair and this is how I feel, but I hope you have freinds and family to support you during this difficult time.
Have thought about being evaluated for recurrent miscarriage?

I'm so sorry to hear this. I'm supposed to be 7+2 today but found out on Friday, waiting for the miscarriage to start.

Do you have any support? Sending love ❤️

@Sagh I will go to my doctor and see what they say. Probably won't help. I'm already on the waiting list for a laparoscopy and part of the procedure will be an endometrial biopsy, so that might give me a bit more of an explanation as to why this keeps happening. 💐 I'm sorry you're going through this. Hope you're feeling better soon.

@VenusStarr I'm sorry you're going through this. 💐 I don't have any support other than my partner. My best friend is due to drop any day so I don't think I can really deal with speaking to her about it.

Go to an Epu

The only EPU near me is only open in the mornings. Unfortunately cannot take any time out from work. If the bleeding gets bad or I'm in any pain or shoulder pain I'll go. But a scan is only going to tell me what I already know.

Thank you @OhDiddums, hope you can take some time to look after yourself. I understand about talking about it. People mean well but say stupid / insensitive things. My partner is good at listening but I find others want to take my mind off it or tell me not to think about it.

Hope you can get in to see your GP x

@VenusStarr you too! I think we just need to be extra kind to ourselves at this time. My partner is good too, I'm very lucky to have him. Just have to take care of each other. 💐

How are you @OhDiddums? Been wondering how you are. Hope you have been able to rest. Did you speak to the doctor?

OP, biggest hugs to you. While it does sound like a miscarriage because of your history, I bled heavily on three occasions and was amazed when they found a heartbeat. Really is worth going to an EPU to verify things.

@VenusStarr I've not been too bad. I haven't had time to rest as such but I feel better keeping busy. I tried calling this morning and the appointment I wanted got taken as the woman was trying to book it. So I'm going to call early tomorrow and should get one for tomorrow evening. How have you been?

@Pommes the epu near me is only open certain hours. I have been bleeding heavily for 3 days and passing clots. So I know there's no chance of a positive outcome here.

I hope you can get seen this week @OhDiddums. I think we all deal with things on our own way, I'm finding I'm getting tired doing simple things like going to the shop, so am generally zoning out or crying at the moment. Hoping that will pass soon. I'm just in limbo as nothing is happening yet, and my body hasn't caught up so feeling more pregnant as time passes, which is very cruel. Had a vivid dream last night where they found a heartbeat but were trying to tell me that it wasn't going to be OK but I wouldn't listen. Feeling quite drained but I guess that's normal.

Sending love x

@VenusStarr if I was in the same position I'd definitely be taking some time out especially if you're feeling unwell. I'm sorry you're going through this and I hope things start to progress.
Previous mc's I wasn't at work luckily due to holiday and just being able to take special leave. I'm leaving in two weeks so I didn't want to take any extra time off. Plus I'd just be brewing on it at home.

Hi ladies.

I hope everyone is starting to recover from what you have been experiencing. I just thought I would jump on this thread as its been 1 week since being told no heart beat at 8 week scan, and yesterday I have appeared to have almost completely expelled the contents of my uterus after 4 overwhelming hours of incredibly heavy bleeding and large clots.

I have GREAT support from several friends, family and of course my husband but I still can't help but feel so lonely and isolated. I've done nothing but read multiple online forums and have actually found them really helpful. As horrible as it soundd, I feel comfort reading other peoples stories who are going through the same thing. Its relatable and its honest.

Much love x

@AJAN09 Hey sorry you're going through this too. 😔 It's good to hear you have lots of support. It's great to have people to talk to when you're having a rough day. Although people don't always understand unless they've experienced the same thing. It doesn't help that miscarriage is such a taboo subject either.
Be kind to yourself and I'm sure we'll all get through this horrible time. 💐 I'm always here if you need a chat.

@VenusStarr how are you doing today hun?

Sorry @OhDiddums I didn't get the notification. I'm not great, feeling really low today. First day on my own, feel like I've pushed dh away. I'm hoping that once I've been back to epu to confirm I can start to move forward. Being in limbo is horrible, especially as I'm feeling more pregnant each day. My body is showing no signs of letting this pregnancy go :( also have found that family and friends support isn't that great. Have had a few early support messages but that's it. Spent a lot of time crying this weekend.

How are you @OhDiddums?

Sorry to see you here too @AJAN09 I feel very isolated, I'm not sure where I belong at the moment. I'm going to try to get out for a walk in my favourite park today.

@VenusStarr have you considered a d&c? I'm sorry you're feeling so low right now. I think it's hard for other people to know what to say. People didn't really know what to say to me with my 1st MC and the ones brave enough to say anything said the totally wrong thing. That's why I have kept the last two quiet. Did your walk help? X

I've been okay till a woman I know excitedly told me she was pregnant. She'd literally just found out and must not have been able to contain herself. I'm just trying to convince myself that she could have gone through fertility problems or trouble conceiving. I have to remember that I don't know everyone's story.

Hi @OhDiddums, the nurse at epu wouldn't discuss the next steps about how to manage it, said we'd talk about it next time, which is Friday thankfully. I just want it over so d+c is where I'm leaning to. I'm glad I did something yesterday, not sure it helped my mood that much. I'll aim to get out again today.

I'm sorry to hear about the baby bomb. I find it hits me at random times. Hope you're OK x

@VenusStarr I'd have thought they would discuss that with you by now. 😔 I'm sorry to hear that. I hope you managed to get out again today.

I'm okay, I don't know why things like this hit me like a freight train. Never mind. Feeling a bit more positive today. X

Glad you're feeling more positive @OhDiddums. I think the sadness hits me in waves and I find that hard.

I didn't make it out today but I did pop to the supermarket with dh when he got home. Tomorrow is another day so I can try and get out again. I'm back first thing on Friday morning so hoping to have a bit more of a plan about how to move on from this x