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First loss

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LG0914 · 17/03/2019 11:17

Hi all - firstly sorry to all of you who are currently going through this as well, or who have done previously.

Quite quickly after finding out I was pregnant, I started bleeding. It was similar to a period and lasted around 4 days. I got checked and had bloods taken and urine sample which came back okay, and was advised to come back if it got worse and if I had severe pain. Few days after I had stopped bleeding, I had very light spotting. Concerned again, I went to my Drs and then went to the EPU. They took bloods and told me they would call me if it was bad news, but if I didn't receive a phonecall then I would go for an early scan.
I received the phonecall. Devastated.
I have to go back in a few days for another blood test. But now I'm just in this weird kind of place, I'm not sure if I'm to have more bleeding (I've only had slight spotting now and again) or if it's over yet. I know they'll explain but I just don't feel like it's right. I've not had severe cramps or anything, just lower back pain (more like an ache?). The bleeding as a whole wasn't what I'd expect for a miscarriage - no big clots or a ton of blood. I was 6+3 when they told me.
I'm just questioning everything, even though the hcg levels went down a considerable amount. I suppose it's because I don't want to admit it to myself properly.

I think I needed somewhere to express these thoughts and that it has actually happened. Positive stories after a miscarriage would be greatly appreciated. Flowers

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OhDiddums · 18/03/2019 12:57

Hey,

I'm sorry for your loss 💐 it's a horrible feeling. I think it varies, some women only bleed for a couple of days. Some a couple of weeks. I have no happy story for you. I'm currently mc'ing for the 3rd time, second in 5 months. I'm just holding out hope that it will happen for me and trying to stay as positive as I can.

I hope everything works out for you and take care of yourself. 💐

NervousBFP · 18/03/2019 13:13

This sounds a lot like my mc unfortunately, minor bleeding, no real pain, symptoms continued. I ended up having to have medical management and it did go on a long time. It was the worst time of my life. All that excitement, hope and planning for the future just gone in the blink of an eye. I really feel for you.
BUT I'm now pregnant again - approaching the second trimester and it's been very stressful but all seems to be going well so far.
MCs are (sadly) surprisingly common. And they're really really hard. Take time to look after yourself and when you're ready to try again, hopefully it will all go well for you.
Sorry for what you're going through Flowers

LG0914 · 20/03/2019 19:21

Thank you both for replying.

I'm sorry @OhDiddums, I hope everything works out for you too. Flowers I do find that reading through posts on here have helped somehow, although at the time it really does feel like everything has come to a standstill but I have hope.

I'm sorry @NervousBFP, but wow congratulations that's amazing news. Have you been having more scans etc this time?

Take care of yourselves and thank you for taking the time out to reply Flowers

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OhDiddums · 21/03/2019 07:23

@LG0914 It's so important to keep faith. I still have faith that it will happen. I hope everything works out for you and you're feeling better soon. 💐

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