Second miscarriage in a year

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Hey everyone,
Just had my second miscarriage in 12 months (both at 6 weeks) and is also the only time I’ve managed to conceive since starting ttc from 2017.
Has any one else had these struggles?
I’m really starting to get disheartened now and my gp really isn’t much help. I havnt even bothered to go in after this mc.
So far they’re sent me for a scan and bloods, both of which have come back fine.
I would really appreciate some advice or someone who’s going through the same?
Xx

Sorry, I've not been through two in the same year, but I have just had a loss at 12 wks.

If you have the same happen again you should go back to your Dr, maybe see someone else if that is possible? I am sure you can have further testing if you have had three losses.

There are many reasons for miscarriage and I am not expert, all I can say is that if you are not already try to be as healthy in your lifestyle as you can (food/supplements/exercise etc) and also try not to stress, much easier said than done! All these things can factor in ttc and egg quality.

Good luck and take care of yourself. I am finding solace in large quantities of Malteasers!

I am so sorry for your loss unfortunately on the NHS they don't take miscarriage very seriously. I had 9 miscarriages over 5 years and now have a healthy amazing 4 year old. Get any testing they offer you is my advice. I was diagnosed with pcos after 7 miscarriages and given metformin which although isnt a wonder drug does help. Good luck xx

Thank you for your replies it’s so nice to hear from people who have experienced the same . Such an awful emptiness, especially when it seems as though everyone around me seems to be getting pregnant with no issues.
My main concern is more that it’s taken so long to have conceived, and then for them to have both failed on top of that.
I’m healthy, t-total and don’t smoke and I take pregnacare conception supplements .
Admittedly maybe too many coffees.
I feel my doctors aren’t taking things seriously and I’m going to have to try other
Methods.
I keep seeing adverts for fertility tablets online and wonder if they would be worth a try?

@SparrowSG how are you holding up ? I’m so sorry to hear about your loss and at a much more difficult stage than mine.
I’m currently waiting for the aftermath to finish and also comforting myself with chocolate and avoiding friends with baby’s!

@Beachmummy23 I cannot imagine having had nine losses, you must be incredibly strong, I’m on two and feel helpless!
Was the metamorfin the change that made things happen for you? Or was there a number of factors?

I had two miscarriages in 7 months back in 2014/15. The first one was at 8 weeks and the second one was at 10 weeks.

The first one was the hardest emotionally as we'd not long married and everything was still exciting and new. The second one was hardest physically - much more painful with lots more bleeding. Not sure if it was the extra two weeks that I'd managed to carry for. When I first started bleeding with the second I thought the worst due to what had happened 7 months previously so had time to accept it more I guess. I was left in limbo though as I went for a scan to confirm it, but although they could see the sac they couldn't see anything else. So I had to go back a week later to see if there had been any change. This was possibly one of the most emotionally challenging weeks of my life. I wanted to remain hopeful, but knew deep down that it was going to be bad news. A week later I went for another scan and there had been no growth so they confirmed that I'd miscarried.

The midwife in EPAU said that when I conceive for a third time to contact them at about 6 weeks and they would do an early scan for reassurance.

Two years later (after putting baby making on hold due to having to recover from an injury) I found myself pregnant again. I contacted them as they said I could only to be told that policy had changed and I needed a referral from my community midwife or a doctor. I asked my midwife and she said she couldn't refer me just for reassurance and that I needed to have some symptoms to warrant it.

So it was a horrendously long wait for my 12 week scan. I was a bag of nerves going in, convinced that it was going to be bad news. When the sonographer said "there's your beautiful baby and there's it's heartbeat" it was so emotional. A massive weight had been lifted off my shoulders.

The pregnancy continued to full term (2 weeks over actually!) and I now have a healthy 11 month old. So there is hope out there even though it doesn't feel like it at the time and you're probably wondering if there is anything wrong.

Please don't try online fertility tablets. I understand why, but you have no idea what is in them. Your gp should refer you to 5he fertility clinic after 12 months so get a second opinion. Metformin wasn't a wonder drug, but helped. I had two more miscarriages on it, one before my daughter and one after. It also helped a friend who now has two children. Its horrific to take and it will only help if you have PCOS. X