Miscarried my first pregnancy

[Jellybean89kaylz]

I joined this site because iv recently had a miscarriage & each day i feel like the loss is getting worse not better. For years iv been told I'd never naturally conceive I got my little miracle jellybean and then lost it. :(

I'm so sorry for your loss. I know it doesn't seem like it but eventually it does get easier - one day you will feel ok - you won't ever be the same but you will find a new "normal". I can't promise that you won't still think about what you've lost because you will - especially in the first year as certain milestones come along - due date etc and there are moments when I still get upset and the loss takes my breath away. I've come out stronger because I've had to be.
Take each day second my second and give yourself time - don't let anyone put a deadline on your grief by saying that you should be over it "by now". Talk about it it if helps or write things in a journal. If you want to try to conceive again focus on that - set yourself milestones - getting your cycle back, ovulating again, booking in investigatory tests/scans if you can get any out of your GP xx

So sorry.. talk to us it’ll become better xx

Thankyou for replying to my post. It’s such a lonely feeling! Like in one instant nothing & everything changed simultaneously. It’s hard because a few days ago I woke up thought I was fine got on with stuff then little things just hit me out of nowhere & I am back to being a wreck again. I hope that you are oki. It means a lot that people reach out because I honestly don’t know how to deal with things because Iv never experienced anything like this! The ache inside of me & the mental pain too. X

Thankyou I will do :)

It's the most lonely and isolating thing we will ever have to go through which is why I also joined Facebook/Mumsnet support groups as unless someone has been through it they have no idea what its like. A lot of hospitals have support groups too and I found those useful after my first miscarriage. I also found that by being honest about what had happened (if someone asked why I had been off work etc or why I didn't have kids yet) I found that a lot of people I knew had suffered a miscarriage but never talked about it and it was good to be able to talk to them and we've supported each other.
Bear in mind that people who have never had a miscarriage will always say the "wrong" things without meaning to - "at least you can get pregnant" "it was obviously for the best" and all that bullshit - be honest about how you're feeling to them and don't hide it - losing a baby is nothing to be ashamed about and don't worry about sparing THEIR feelings. Xx