ERPC or medical management?

[Glitterandunicorns]

Hi ladies. I went for a scan last week at eight weeks pregnant with a very much longed for second pregnancy which took us two years to conceive. It turns out that the size was only equivalent to approx 6 weeks.

I have to go back on Thursday for another scan. The consultant has told me that either it's a failing pregnancy or my dates are wrong. As I know my dates are correct, I'm not hopeful of a positive outcome.

He said at that point, they can discuss my options with me. I wonder if anyone can advise me what is the least traumatic way to deal with this please? If it makes any difference, I had a MC before which turned out to be a blighted ovum and found horrifically painful. I've also been having bleeding this week which was just like my usual periods and not at all like the MC I've had before, so I don't know what that is all about.

At the moment, I'm leaning towards a ERPC as I don't think I could cope with seeing anything if you see what I mean. I understand the risks of infection etc that come with surgery, but can anyone tell me if they have made that decision and regretted it? I'd really like to go in to my appointment on Thursday and just be able to tell them straight away so we can try to move on.

I'm so sorry for everyone's losses. It's shit isn't it.

Hi, I'm so very sorry. It is totally shit.

I had a similar experience unfortunately and opted for an ERPC. I didn't regret it and found it physically to be fine. I wasn't in pain, it was all calm and controlled and over quickly. I am glad that I opted for that route.

Take care

Hi @itsgoingtoofast. I'm sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your experience.

Just had an ERPC today. The infection risk is low (1% I think) and you receive antibiotics at the time and then to go home.
I am so glad I had it. Was in and out of theatre in under 45mins and ready for home less than 2 hours later. I’ve had barely any pain and the bleeding is light. Psychologically I have found it easier as I know it’s over so can move on with my life.
This was also a longed for second pregnancy so I sympathise entirely.

For me I had no deserve to have tablets to induce pain and bleeding, sounded miserable as you described.

Ask any questions, happy to answer.

So sorry Glitter.

I had a blighted ovum in 2013 and opted for surgical management. I just wanted it over and it was fine. Much like Munchy, physically I found the process fairly straightforward. I was only delayed being discharged as I was waiting in the recovery area before they could transfer me to a ward so I could be discharged from there. It was all quite convoluted! But the procedure itself was fine. I had it done on a Thursday and was back to work on the Monday. I think I bled for a week or so, but it was light, just like a regular period really.

Hi, I’m sorry for your loss and that you are going through this. I had surgical management 3 weeks ago, and also had a natural miscarriage at 12 weeks last year (both were blighted ovums).

The surgical management was very straightforward and was definitely the right choice for me. It was all over so quickly (15 mins) and I was ready to leave an hour later after i’d recovered from the anaesthetic. I luckily had no pain at all afterwards and minimal bleeding, and was basically back to normal physically the next morning, compared to my previous very painful miscarriage. It does feel very “clinical” but I think that actually helped me to process it better, though (for me) still emotionally difficult.

I’m happy to answer any questions if it would help, all the best

Thank you all so much for your guidance. It's really helped me and it's made me more certain that unless it happens naturally before then, that I should request ERPC.

I'm truly sorry for all of your losses.