I know it was a miscarriage

[teeteeb]

Two months ago (only two months after having my son) I had a mix of positive and negative tests but mostly positive. (I'd say 10 positive and 2 or 3 negative) and then I started bleeding heavily with lots of clots. I thought I was having a miscarriage and knew there's was nothing anyone could do so just rode it out. The bleeding lasted two weeks altogether. After I'd stopped bleeding I was still getting bad abdominal pain so I made an emergency GP appointment and she made me feel so stupid. Did a pregnancy test which was negative and sent me on my way, she was very condescending and didn't even mention the word miscarriage.

I know that I had one, but I feel like I can't say that I had one - if that makes sense? Because it wasn't confirmed by a doctor? For example I went to the clinic a few weeks ago to get contraception and I didn't mention it because I kinda feel like a fraud and that it didn't happen. I feel so distraught about it though.

[teeteeb]

Anyone, please?

[Aberforthsgoat]

Did you tell your doctor you’d had a miscarriage and she dismissed you or did you not mention it to her?

[Aberforthsgoat]

Sorry posted too soon
Wanted to say so sorry you had to go through this

[teeteeb]

I said I'm not sure if it's a miscarriage or what's going on

[Aberforthsgoat]

And she completely dismissed it?

[teeteeb]

Yes.

[Aberforthsgoat]

Can you go back and see another doctor and explain that you think you likely did have a miscarriage (certainly sounds like it)
She sounds awful and not compassionate at all.
At the very least she should be taking the fact that you’ve had an unusual bleed seriously, especially if she doesn’t think it was a miscarriage

I’m sorry for your loss this must be making it even more stressful.

[teeteeb]

Thank you. Is there any point in going to the doctors now?

[Aberforthsgoat]

Personally i still would to have it on your record Incase in the future (hopefully not) you need tests or further investigation
Or mental health support
I have had a chemical pregnancy before which is where it’s over pretty much before it begins but just has a normal period. I bled for two weeks with my miscarriage previous to this, so to me it sounds like a mc although I’m definitely not a doctor
But the point is my doctors logged my chemical pregnancy so it was on my record
I would go back if you can and just explain you don’t necessarily expect them to do anything because obviously they can’t but you would like it on the record and wasn’t sure if you should be checked out

[teeteeb]

Okay. Thank you so, so much for your help.

[Aberforthsgoat]

You’re very welcome.
Definitely push for a different doctor and, I know it’s hard, try not to let them dismiss your concerns and what happened.
Good luck, hope you get on ok.

[Aberforthsgoat]

Even if they think it was residing hormone from your sons birth they shouldn’t dismiss you or make you feel stupid.
It really annoys me when doctors do that!