Is it ok to now really effected by miscarriage?

[Wanderer1]

I’m having an early miscarriage, at 5 weeks, a week after I got my BFP. I am was really excited to get the bfp and amazed that I’d conceived relatively quickly but then a few days later I started bleeding. At the moment my feelings are akin to mild disappointment- did I just not have time to get attached or is there something wrong with me?!

Nothing wrong with you! Everyone approaches stuff differently. Some people get really attached from that first line on a test, others don't until later on. There's no right way to feel.

I'm quite pragmatic about stuff so when I had a chemical pregnancy, I didn't really feel emotional about it. Just, as you say, slightly disappointed but also slightly relieved that I could at least conceive. If it had been a few weeks later, it would have been much more difficult. But that's just my personal experience.

Best of luck for TTC

Thank you celebelly, your message is really helpful. I think I feel worried about it happening again, but not attached. As you say, even a few more days and it might have been a different story.

Early miscarriages are really common and most of the time the woman will go on to conceive and have a normal pregnancy. I conceived again a few cycles later and am now 37 weeks. I was a bit paranoid for the first couple of weeks but my anxiety settled down after that and it's been fine since. Chances are it's just a one off and next time will be fine. I almost thought of it as my body just having a test run after spending 15+ years not getting pregnant every month.