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Currently miscarrying.

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Noopey · 13/01/2019 16:50

Help

I’m currently miscarrying. I’ve never had one before. I’m 11 wks. Had light bleeding on Friday, nothing overnight, more bleeding Saturday, again nothing over night. Then today. Lots of bleeding, clots and currently very painful. Like a bad period.

Most of the bloody comes out when I’m on the loo, not into my sanitary towel. I really really don’t want to miscarry straight into the loo. Do I go to A&E? Or as there’s nothing they can do should I just stay at home?

I can’t think straight. This is the worst thing ever to happen to me. Help.

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Tweety1981 · 13/01/2019 16:51

Ring 111

Tweety1981 · 13/01/2019 16:52

So sorry to hear about this . Be brave .

Tweety1981 · 13/01/2019 16:53

If you have access to your midwives you could try them too ..

herethereandnow · 13/01/2019 17:10

Agree, call NHS24 and ask them for advice - or the early pregnancy unit at your nearest hospital. I'm so sorry for your loss, its devastating. Sending you love and support. xx

civicxx · 13/01/2019 17:12

I'm so sorry your going through this. Ring NHS 111 I imagine they will send you to hospital to be seen in the early pregnancy unit. Lots of love xx

lanternlight · 13/01/2019 17:13

This has just happened to me. I was 12+3 but baby hadn’t gotten past 5-6 weeks. YOU WILL GET THROUGH IT. I wouldn’t have thought I could but I did and you will too. It is a horrible horrible thing to have to experience but when you are in the process of it you cope - you have to.

I was advised by midwife that most ladies have to sit on the loo when they are passing the heaviest flow so it is hard to monitor blood loss (I was advised heavy loss is soaking through more than 3 pads in a hour) . When this happens she said go by how you feel. If you feel lightheaded or unable to cope, you must seek help. I was advised to call a special 24 hr emergency Gynae ward number. If you don’t have access to this then perhaps as previous posters have suggested 111 or even 999. Help is there if you need it.

Make sure you have someone with you if at all possible, sip water regularly (I also had full sugar coke to keep my energy levels up - it is a very physical process) and above all remind yourself that THIS WILL PASS however horrific it feels. Your body knows what to do and it will do its very best to do so.

I found that when it was happening to me I kind of went into a coping zone. I am a highly anxious person with severe anxiety surrounding pregnancy and birth. The worst was happening and I got through - you will too. As the saying goes, when you’re going through hell, keep going. I am thinking of you.

Tweety1981 · 13/01/2019 18:00

R u ok

Flyfisherlady · 14/01/2019 02:00

I my case I had a lot of of blood then a few days went past then I had apocalyptic levels of blood. Midwife said of the blood is mainly coming out in clots rather than a steady flow probably best to remain at home as it is a lot of blood, and quite frankly nicer. Will be hard to catch the remains. Also be prepared for bleeding to last a few weeks. Keep updating Epu. Buy all the sanitary pads as you will need them. Also, be prepared to feel very shit and sad and alone as miscarriage is a horrible thing. It’s a huge loss and be kind to yourself and allow yourself to grieve. We are also here for you if you need

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Noopey · 14/01/2019 06:36

Thanks for all your messages.

Very quickly the pain got unbearable so we went to A&E. Took them awhile to get the pain under control but was a huge relief when they finally did. I was scanned about 9ish last night. Baby had stopped developing at 5/6weeks.

My blood flow has not gotten big enough yet so haven’t fully miscarried. Been in over night so they could give pain relief. Think they might send me home today. If they just prescribe me paracetamol I’m going cry again. I can’t deal with another day like yesterday.

Can’t believe I’m going to have to go through this at home. How do you stop it going straight down the loo? Can’t bear that thought.

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lanternlight · 14/01/2019 07:03

Thank you for updating us. You did the right thing seeking help.

Regarding passing down the loo, I have read that some ladies use a sieve to catch the contents. Others sit in an empty bath so they are able to see everything that passes. Others still just sit on the loo. Whatever works for you. There is no nice option I’m afraid and it just sucks.

Thinking of you. Look after yourself, stay well, you are doing it.

Flyfisherlady · 14/01/2019 07:32

I kept wiping and kept checking and saw most things. I caught the remains as luckilyit came early on before things got too bloody. However, you can’t let yourself feel guilty if you don’t manage to catch it. There’s so much blood and gore (in my case) that it’s overwhelming to deal with and not necessarily able to identify. The circumstances are really out of your control. The important thing whatever happens is that the little life was loved and remains or not you can remember it. Apologies to be graphic but I hope it helps you prepare.

moomin11 · 14/01/2019 07:40

So sorry you are going through this Flowers

I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks just after Christmas, everything had stopped developing at 5/6 weeks too. It is an awful thing to go through. I took codeine, paracetamol and ibuprofen staggered throughout the day which made it bearable on the worst days. A hot water bottle also helped as did hot baths. You will get through this but it does take a lot out of you, physically and emotionally. I felt exhausted for a week afterwards and still feel emotional at times, it was only 2 weeks ago so still raw. Take care xx

MrsC19 · 14/01/2019 10:20

I’m going through the same as your right now :( I was up throughout the night with contraction like pains, hoping that this would be it (I’ve been bleeding for two weeks already) but then they just disappeared so I’m playing the waiting game again 😫

sollyfromsurrey · 14/01/2019 10:37

At 5-6 weeks your foetus would be less than 1cm. They will be tiny and unformed and very easy to miss. Please don't obsess over losing them down the toilet as dreadful as that sounds.

cheeseislife8 · 14/01/2019 14:58

So sorry OP Flowers it does end and in my experience it tailed off so hopefully the worst is over for you

Flyfisherlady · 14/01/2019 15:15

Should mention, started bleeding on the 22nd December and still bleeding now. It’s a long haul. Horrible thing to happen to anyone and my heart breaks for all on here. Fed up of answering how my Christmas was to colleagues- sh*t is actually what I’ve been saying because it was.

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Noopey · 14/01/2019 16:08

I’m really sorry to all those of you who have had or are having miscarriages. There is nothing like the pain, heart ache & physically, of it.

I’m beginning to mentally prepare myself for the length of time I may bleed for. Is the bleeding pretty constant? Does it come and go? What are the pain levels like? I’m just worried that I might consently need morphine which means never getting out of hospital. And I can’t stay here.

Has anything in particular helped your pain?

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cheeseislife8 · 14/01/2019 21:04

I think it's different for everyone but you're right, nothing prepares you for it. Once my bleeding/clotting/pain started in earnest (after 36 hours of heavy spotting) it took maybe 24 hours or a little longer for the worst of it. Then it tailed off to a period type heaviness which lasted a couple of weeks on and off. I'm sure it's been longer or shorter for others but hoping it helps xx

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