How to support a friend

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My friend is going through a miscarriage, I've been through one myself so I know the pain and suffering you feel. I feel so shitty because I don't know what to say and how I can help ? Has anyone got any advice ?x

I'm so sorry for your friend's loss OP (and yours). Everyone is different so can only speak from personal experience. At first I just wanted to be left alone. I didn't want to see or speak to anyone and then when I did I didn't want to hear see unhelpful comments like "it wasn't meant to be", "at least you know you can get pregnant ", "just try again" etc etc. I'm sure you won't say that but that upset so much as it dismissed the bond I had with my baby and their existence. Just be there if she wants you, let her know if she wants to talk you're there for her, listen, don't feel you have to say anything apart from acknowledge how awful it is. Give her a big hug and ask if there's anything you can help with like getting food in, cooking etc. You sound like a lovely friend if you've come here to ask so I'm sure you'll do and say the perfect things x

Thank you ! I've told her I'm there for her and she is opening up slowly and asking me things, I just felt so helpless because I know everyone deals with everything differently, thank you so much for your reply x

Just tell she how shit it is and that you know there is nothing anyone can say that makes it any better.