I think baby stopped growing 2 weeks ago :-(

[BeKindAlways]

Hello,

Probably a lot of stories like this but I haven’t found one exactly like it, if someone could give me some exposure / stories that would be wonderful.

I did a pregnancy test on 29th November and it was strong positive. I then did a clear blue and it said 3 weeks + but I only wee’d on it for 2 seconds instead of 5 (nerves!)
So I went to my doctors who confirmed I was about 6 weeks pregnant based on my last period (21st October) she also said the line was very strong.
So because I am anxious and this pregnancy was unexpected I booked in for a private scan which would land when I am around 8 weeks and 2 days.
I must put in that my last two periods were late as I have an under active thyroid and I changed to strong meds (not sure if this is relevant)
I went to scan yesterday and they couldn’t find a heartbeat so they did a vaginal one, confirmed no heartbeat and that it was only 3mm so presumed may of stopped a couple of weeks ago.
I then went to doctors in bits. Given an appointment for Early pregnancy unit where I attended today. Same thing. 3mm and no HB. Sonographer was kind but basically said to prepare for miscarriage and gave me information. I am booked in day after Boxing Day to get the confirmation. I asked the odds and she said only 10% so very unlikely will be healthy pregnancy. I haven’t stopped crying. Does anyone have a positive experience ? Or could the thyroid thing of mucked dates up? Boobs aren’t really sore anymore. And to be honest I did stop “feeling pregnant” a week or so ago but read that was normal.
The sonogrpaher said ovaries fine, no haemorrhages and there was a sac and a baby just no heartbeat. She guessed I was around 6 weeks.

Anyway I can’t believe I have to be in limbo over Christmas. I was hoping to tell my family the lovely news. I know it’s 90% a miss miscarriage but I can’t help hoping so it’s stopping me still going back to normal ways (having a drink , caffeine, etc) just. In. Case.

Xx

I'm so sorry for your possible loss. I've never experienced it myself but didn't want to read and run. Hopefully this will bump your post and someone more helpful will be along

Thank you so much x

Hiya, I had my mc in October and I had my 12 week scan and my baby only measured at 9 weeks with no heartbeat and unfortunately I did end up having a mmc. However if the baby is only measuring 6 weeks then there would be no heartbeat until 7 weeks so hopefully you just have your dates wrong, good luck, I hope everything goes well at your next scan. Let me know what comes of your scan if you need support xxxx

Thank you Alisha, I really appreciate the message. I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. Life really isn’t fair.
I don’t feel ready to tell my friends yet (probably shooting self in foot as no proper support)
I’ve got to go into work today and I think I will telly boss. I just feel so broken. My period date is definitely correct but it was three weeks later than usual. I did have hope but I read last night that the baby grows 1mm every day and it was 3mm on Tuesday and then yesterday she said still 3mm.

So sad. X

This very recently happened me and it wasn't good news unfortunately. Went for a private scan at what I thought was 8+3. Baby measured 6+6, was 8.6mm and no heartbeat. It was confirmed the next day at epu. I also have an under active thyroid. I ended up having an erpc last Thursday.
I'm devastated and I really do hope you get better news than me.

Aww my heart breaks for you. This does sound very similar. I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. I was so nice to think I wouldn’t be this affected. The sonographer was positive in the fact she said I could probably go on to have a healthy pregnancy in future but it doesn’t really comfort at times like this.

I really hope you’re okay x

Thank you....The epu did tell me that if the baby measures over 7mm and no heartbeat is seen then it's pretty much always bad news.
The fact that your little one is measuring less will be why they are waiting I presume so I'll keep my fingers crossed for you x

Thank you darling. I will keep a tiny shred of hope but I know I’m silly to. X

Hi @BekindAlways. I was 12 weeks last week and out of nowhere started getting some cramping and I hadn't had any at all since i got my BFP in october. EPU did a scan and then an internal one they said i was measuring a lot smaller than what they would expect to see at 12 weeks, more like 7_8. They said they wern't legally allowed to say it was a miscarriage until two weeks later so I am also booked in for a second scan on the 27Th. They said in all likliehood it was a miscarriage and unfortunately i started to miscarry at home at the weekend. I hope your story works out differently than mine but in case it doesn't you might want to tell a close friend or someone who could support you as the past week has been very sad and painful! Ill be thinking of you and hoping for the best x

@proseccobee thank you for sharing your story. I am finding this group already so helpful and supportive.

I am absolutely so sorry to hear what’s happening to you. Life is so bloody cruel. This is my first time and I was so naive in every way. I thought miscarriages were much rarer.

I really hope whatever your outcome you find peace and happiness x

Just to update If anyone following. I started getting awful pains in tummy around 2pm. Left work and saw blood. Been in pain and every time I go to toilet there is blood and small clots so I think this is a miscarriage. So sad 😞

Hi @bekindalways

So so sorry to hear this, I had my mc last month.

I was about 7 weeks also, and it was heartbreaking, and physically and emotionally so hard.

The only thing I can say to you is to trust that you will feel better soon, within a week I could finally see light at the end of the tunnel.

My period came back 3 weeks after mc and we are ttc again.

I have a 3 yo, but was also blissfully naive- and thought mc's were something that happened to other people.

The next few days, will be tough and its an awful time of year for this to happen, but be strong and be hopeful - this time it wasnt meant to be, but 2019 will be the year for a healthy pregnancy.

try and see your gp or emergency gynae dept tomorrow if you can.

I had the cramps for a day or 2, all the clots finished after day 3.

I am thinking of you, i was lucky in that a very close friend had 3 miscarriages but also has 3 beautiful girls so was there for me.

keep us posted xxxx

@BeKindAlways I'm so sorry to hear this. You and I have had almost identical stories.

My last period was 22nd October and got positive test 23rd November. Our first. So excited and couldn't help but get carried away!

I started light spotting 5th and was told to go to EPU as precaution. I wish I'd taken DH but I was a little blasé and assumed nothing. Same result as you-should have been 6 weeks but no heartbeat and was very much told to prepare. They took HGC hormone at 48 hour interval which confirmed it was dropping not increasing. Same day I started getting cramps and bleeding with clots.

I bled for just under a week. We hadn't told anyone either but I did tell my DM and MIL when it happened and was grateful for the support.

It was just awful and we mourned the loss of the plans we had made rather than the actual bleed (I hope that makes sense).

Tomorrow night we are having Christmas drinks with both parents where we'd planned to tell them the happy news. We're still having it but toasting a happier 2019!

I'm ovulating now so we're back on the horse! We are keeping positive for a happier result soon

I do hope you get through this with as least complications as possible and I would perhaps consider telling close family for support? Wishing you lots and lots of baby dust in 2019 and hope to see you back on the pregnancy boards soon!!

I'm so sorry

Really sorry to hear your bad news :( I went through a missed miscarriage recently myself. It's upsetting when you thought there was nothing wrong. I really feel for you. There is a lot of good support on these boards. I found the miscarriage / pregnancy loss board more helpful than any other info I could find online or from the hospital. In case you don't get time to read it, I'll give you some of my experience here if that's OK. I think it's best to be prepared.

If you have a good relationship with your family, it's best to tell some of them what you are going through. Having a miscarriage is upsetting and painful. Please don't go through it alone. Also, it goes without saying but you and your partner need to be kind to each other now more than ever.

Be prepared to stay at home for a few days during the worst of it. I hope you can take some time off work. Have some thick pads for when the bleeding gets very heavy. I used Tena Lady Silhouette pants which were great. I stayed in my pyjamas, ate chocolate and did whatever I could to distract myself - trash TV, books, games, whatever keeps you occupied.

At some points the cramping got intensely painful and I could do nothing else but wait for it to pass. That pain came and went throughout the day. I think I bled for about a week altogether with 2 days of really bad pain. Some women bleed for longer.

After I passed the sac I felt physically better. I couldn't see the baby, just the sac it lived in. In a way I was glad to see it. I buried it in my garden and we sowed some nice flowers over it later. You may prefer not to look at all or do anything in particular with it - just have a think about that now as you may need to decide quickly later. Even if you decide to flush it, it will end up in the sea under the stars.

After the miscarriage you'll still feel sad for your loss, but you will feel much better about it than you do now. Your hormones will settle and you'll be able to mentally deal with it. Take a pregnancy test every 1-2 weeks. Once you get a negative test you can try again if you feel ready.

Most women who miscarry will have a healthy pregnancy later. I am pregnant again 2 months later and hoping for the best. I really wish you the best and I hope this difficult time passes quickly for you. Thinking of you.

Thank you guys so so so so much. Your messages mean everything.
I’m so sorry to hear this happened to you, I just can’t believe it how common.
Life is so unfair. I’ve read so many positive stories about afterwards so clinging onto those. You girls are soooo brave. The thought of trying again and that tense moment with the scan is filling me with anxiety. I suffer with mental health and just hope this doesn’t make everything worse. I’m trying to be strong.
We are going to try and quickly save for a mortgage and get in a less stressful environment and settled before trying again. I need to get stronger!

I have slowly started telling a couple of friends and I feel better about that but also conscious I don’t want to be the victim, it just horrible how alone this makes you feel. Speaking to you all has made me feel better so thank you.

Wishing positivity and healthy 2019 for you all xxxx