Colleague had baby on my due date

[Ells0204]

Just posting to get this off my chest.

Background story this colleague was my manager (I have left the company now but was there for a long time and still stay in touch with some of the girls I grew close to) and I told her about my miscarriage the day I started bleeding in the toilet at work and had to go home. She wasn’t particularly over sympathetic but she did say “it must be awful for you” which indicates she’s never had one so probably didn’t really know what to say to me.

A week later she came into work wearing those travel sickness bands and I clocked it straight away that she was pregnant herself. I spent the next 6 weeks unable to look her in the eye because I just knew she was pregnant and must have been as far along as I was before I lost my baby.

The week I would have been 12 weeks, she announced her pregnancy. I had to act surprised when deep down I had known all along.

I’ve just heard she had her baby last week on the same day as my due date.

It’s put me in a terrible mood just thinking about how things could have been different in a parallel universe. She went on to have her baby but I had to lose mine. Why?

It’s just really unfair op

It's really really awful. I have been there. I had a lot of miscarriages.

The coincidence of due dates is a red herring. Your loss is personal to you and your colleagues baby is not relevant unless you dwell on it. We never know what other people go through to have their children.

Life can be very cruel. Focus on nourishing yourself.

Massive kick in the teeth! I've had miscarriages too, it's shit and there was usually someone who was due around the same time that I was. It's just a coincidence though, not something that happened to spite you.

I absolutely echo what WineGummyBear says above, focus on yourself and your situation.

It feels really unfair, but everyone has their struggle in life somewhere along the way.

Hi op, I was just to post a thread but thought I would pop on here. I had a miscarriage in September.

Last week at our christams doo one of the girls told me she was pregnant, I went home and cried. Now today my boss called me aside and said one of the other girls in the team who I work much more closely with is pregnant. But didn’t want to tell me herself.

It’s so rubbish. I’m also feeling why did they get to keep their babies and I don’t get mine. I’m happy for them though feel so sad.

Just want to say I know how you feel and I think it’s normal. I hope you are ok x