Fourth pregnancy loss

[Hopingforarainbow]

Hello,
First time writing in any forum but feel like I need to hear some positive stories if there are any out there.
Two years ago I had an ectopic pregnancy discovered at 6 weeks which was medically managed with methotrexate. Conceived again after two periods (which is what they recommended) but this ended in an early misscarriage at 6 weeks, decided to give ourselves a break to heal emotionally and just enjoy each other without any pressure. Fast forward 2 years and we conceive again in September, but 2 days after a positive test I began to bleed and then got negative tests. Tried again that month and caught again. Phoned our Epu (who’s staff now know me by sight) and she called us in for an early scan to rule out ectopic. At 6w2d we saw a sack and a Fetal pole all in the right place and we were thrilled. Went back again at 8w1d and we had a heartbeat and I really thought it was going to be ok. Went to see the midwife a few days later for my booking and again, everything was fine. We went in to our 12 week scan believing that we were going to see a wriggling little baby (we’d already seen a heartbeat after all). As soon as I saw the monitor I knew. It was no bigger than it had been the last time we saw it, 4 weeks earlier. We were sent to the Epu where they confirmed that our baby had died just 5 days after we’d seen it’s heart beat.
I have just come out of hospital after opting for the medical treatment. As it was our 3rd consecutive miscarriage the baby was sent for genetic testing. We are just numb and I can’t see any light at the end of the tunnel. Does anyone have any positive stories?
Thanks

I had 3 miscarriages too, one after the other.
After much research on my part, I began to take regular doses of aspirin ( with medical consent)
I carried my youngest son to almost full term soon after.
Not one day of his pregnancy did I let myself believes that he'd be fine, but most thankfully he was and is.
Take each day/ hour at a time. Try to remain positive and give yourself time.

Thank you for your reply. That is exactly the sort of happy outcome I needed to hear. Have noticed a lot of people mentioning taking aspirin, think I’ll ask next time I go to the Epu. Trying to take each day as it comes. Weirdly hoping that something shows up on the genetic testing so that hopefully we will know what we are working with.

Three miscarriages here, no known reason. Genetic testing cane back clean. I lost a little weight and stopped drinking. Had my DC early this year. Had genuinely got to the point where I thought it would never happen.

I remember going in to the EPU because my partner was so stressed (I was quite fatalistic by this point). The doctor doing the scan asked me would I like to hear the heartbeat and said "Have you ever heard that before?" with a huge smile on his face. I hadn't; I cried my eyes out in sheer relief.

DC is currently in their cot next to my bed.

How beautiful ❤️ Thank you so much for sharing and a big congratulations to you. I think I’ve had a delayed reaction. I cried a little last week after the scan but I’ve just been numb since then, today however has been a really bad day but reading both of your stories have made me feel like there still may be hope x

@Hopingforarainbow It's so hard, just try and be kind to yourself (such a cliché but it's important). It's so easy to beat yourself up and feel somehow like it's your fault; it really isn't.

I remember a panda in Edinburgh Zoo having a baby and I cried to my friend that even the fucking panda could have a baby and they were too lazy to even mate most of the time!

Please also know that everyone reading this understands. Since having my miscarriages I'm quite open about them, and the amount of women I know who'd had them and never said anything, was quite shocking.

I had three in succession after two normal-ish (one full term one 30 weeker) pregnancy's. I thought I was being punished for something l I was given aspirin next pregnancy and have an 18 month little boy.

I'm so sorry

I've had 3 in succession and was started on low dose aspirin. I'm now 38 + 4 and he could arrive any day. There are some really good, supportive recurrent miscarriage clinics that your GP can refer you to before you become pregnant and they will continue to follow you up through pregnancy. Best of luck xxxx

Thank you all for your kind reply’. It’s so nice to hear that you all have had positive outcomes. Congratulations to you madamePeony, bet you can’t wait.
Did you all have testing before ttc again or did you just go for it? I haven’t had any call backs from the Epu or anyone since being discharge, although I understand that it’s only been a few days. I just don’t know what to expect. I was told the day I found out I’d had a mmc that they would like to scan me when I’m not pregnant to look at my uterus etc but the nurse/ doctor whatever she is didn’t seem to think that she’s find anything as she feels she would have seen something beforehand given how many times I’ve been scanned in the past.
Sorry for the rambling on, I get flooded with questions as soon as I begin to write x