Loneliness after late mc

[Shwave]

2 weeks ago at my 20 week scan I found out the devastating news that my baby has passed away.

When it first happened I got lots of supportive messages from friends, but since then I feel like it’s gone so quiet and like everyone’s forgotten about me. My OH is getting lots of calls and messages from friends but mine have all gone quiet (apart from some mum friends I met when pregnant with my 3 year old who have been checking in on me). I know my other friends will all be feeling awkward and not sure what to say, but I’d rather they said the wrong thing than said nothing at all. They all know I’m going through the worst time of my life, but I feel a bit abandoned.

Sorry I’m not sure what the point of writing this is. I just feel really alone right now, despite a very supportive partner and family. Has anyone been through anything similar? Do I approach them or wait for them to contact me?

@Shwave, I read your post and my heart sank. I am so sorry for your loss. I suffered a late mc in October, discovered at 16 weeks. I understand what you mean about being lonely. Most days I am normally OK, but others feel really dark. Today is a dark day.
It's really hard watching everyone just getting on with their lives around you. I don't know about you but I feel like I'm standing still while people move around me. Friends are sympathetic for a while but it feels like there is a mourning period gifted to you with and once it's up, you're left alone. Thankfully I have 1 incredible friend who is a great source of support. If you have just 1 person to talk to it makes such a difference. Perhaps reach out if you have someone who you think will understand - unless go have gone through a mc, it's hard to imagine the pain so perhaps just being really open with them will illicit the support you need. Also maybe see if there is a support group at your local hospital where you're likely to meet someone who has experienced something similar.

The ladies on here are always very supportive too.

I wish you lots of luck and happiness.

I am so sorry for your loss

I've been through simular. I lost my daughter at just over 20 weeks after my waters went.

I had a few friends message at first and then heard nothing, I reached out to one who I thought I could rely on but still nothing so I gave up.

I found it extremely lonely but have since spoke with a few other parents online who also lost a child. It's really helped me to have the support of them.