Forgotten Miscarriage

[LondonMummy1987]

Hello,

Sorry if this is an upsetting post. I just need to rant and moan. I had a miscarriage two years ago, they would have been my third child. I am really lucky to have two amazing little boys, but i am really struggling with this loss. My husband doesn't ever mention it, and if I half mention it in a conversation he ignores it and skims over it. I feel like I cant grieve for my baby as no one ever mentions it.

I didn't know I was pregnant until the miscarriage, which was at 6 weeks. My best friend has two boys the same age as my two, and now has a daughter who would be almost the same age as my baby would be, so it is really difficult seeing this wonderful little princess hit all her milestones and knowing that my baby didn't.

I'm not sure of the point of this post, just needed to get it out, sorry.

x

I'm in a similar boat. I had a miscarriage in 2015 and apart from hugs and 'I'm sorry's' on the day it happened no one ever mentioned it again. My DH like yours just skims over it when I mention it, or just says 'at least we have our 2 DC' with a hug and that's it. No one apart from me remembers the anniversary or the due date etc.

I have no advice really but just wanted you to know you're not alone x so sorry for your loss

I’m sorry for your loss
I don’t think that anyone who hasn’t been through it understands
I got pg 1 week after I lost my baby at 12 weeks which for all our friends and family seemed to mean it never actually happened at all. We have 2 lovely dc now.
I doubt DH gives our lost baby a thought and would have no idea of the day he was due or the day I lost him.
I don’t really care though, I remember and that’s enough for me. I’m not a “talk about my feelings “ type so I don’t want to discuss it with anyone
I do send £100 to a children’s hospice every xmas though and they light a candle for him. Would something like that help?