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Anybody Else Had Loss of Confidence?

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Gemmac15 · 23/11/2018 22:09

In January I had a miscarriage at 9 weeks... followed by a suspected in May (didn’t test in time), and I’m currently in the midst of another at 5 weeks.

After my first I found my confidence had taken a severe dent... as in my confidence to do things that had previously been every day for me.

Horse riding has been my thing since I was 3... a couple of years ago my horse dropped dead from heart attack and I’ve only ridden sporadically since. Shortly after he died I bought a new young horse, and since he was broken this year I’ve been a nervous wreck riding him out, stupid stuff that would never have bothered me before literally has me wanting to cry at my self for being so pathetic. I just can’t face fighting with him or dealing with youngster behaviour.

Secondly at work... if I’m out under pressure I bottle it. I’ve ended up in tears infont on senior management with no explanation as to why. I’ve also been in the midst of a promotion that has been ongoing since June... I bottled negotiating that too.

I’ve not told anybody about our issues, my husband has not taken things well and I just keep hoping we will get there next time.

Has anybody got any advice or similar experience? Thank you!

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cwalsh2002 · 25/11/2018 23:08

Hi Gemmac15, so sorry for your loss. I recently suffered a mc at 16 wks, having had an early mc back in May. The first I chalked up as one of those things as the early mc stats are so high. The second has completely devastated me and, like you, has had such an effect on my confidence. I don't know what it is but I feel utterly useless and have convinced myself that I am rubbish at my job and will enviably be pushed out. I don't have any advice for you but just wanted to let you know that you're not alone. I guess like anything, time is what you need to feel back on track. X

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