Need advice

[alisha1234]

I had my mc on the 9th October and I am still struggling to cope on a day to day basis, I find myself crying every single day because the littlest thing sets me off like if I see someone that is pregnant or even if I see my sisters one year old because all I do is think about my angel and what could have been. Any addvise on how to cope on a day to day basis is greatly appreciated, thank you

I'm sorry for your loss .

It's tough isn't it.

The thing is there's no real answer to your question. Grief doesn't come with a remedy I'm afraid.

All I can say trot out is the adage about time being the best healer - because that's true.

Try and accept that your feelings are normal and that it will take time to start to accept what's happened. Putting pressure on yourself to feel "normal/ok" or suppressing how you feel can make things worse.

What I can say is that whilst you won't forget what's happened you will get through this. Just try and be kind to yourself and maybe try and find a simple calming routine for when you feel low - I used to like making a really nice herbal tea and sitting in my favourite chair with a good book to get "lost" in helpful. I'd carry around the tea in my handbag so if I had a "moment" out of the house I could either make so tea or (this sounds odd I know) sniff the tea bag to remind me of my "happy routine".

I agree with everything Mortis has said. Time is the most helpful thing and go easy on yourself while you get through the healing. It does get easier, you'll have a few wobbles along the way but one day you'll smile and laugh and you'll mean it. You'll never forget your baby but you'll start to find your peace again.

Thinking of you OP, you aren't alone in this. We are all here for you. Just take one day at a time. So sorry for your loss. Xx

Thank you for your replies, the worst thing is that i am at college and somebody that I know has the same due date that I would have had. I find it really hard being around her but I'm so happy for her I just don't know how to express it because when she puts up a post saying how far along she is all I can think about is that I would be exactly the same as her and it's really hard x