Second missed miscarriage this year...

[Womanvslife]

So at the start of the year we had our 12weeks scan and were told there was no heartbeat and the baby had died at 9 weeks. This was our first pregnancy and we were heartbroken...

We had never even heard of a MMC before so this came as a complete blow, we gave ourselves time to heal and tried again and got our bfp.

We had recently had our 12week scan and it's happened again, this time our baby had died at 8weeks. I just feel broken.
We have talked about picking ourselves up and trying again but I am terrified of this happening again andbagain and I just don't know how many timed I can it.

So I suppose I really need some reassurance, and maybe some helpful tips? I've read maybe taking baby aspirin? I will take anything anyone can offer as the NHS won't help until I've had 3 or more...

Thank you all in advance 🥰

Hi,

Sorry for you loss - sending lots of love.

I’m in the same situation as you, kind of.
I’ve had two miscarriages with one being silent. I’m also terrified ! I feel my second was a lot more emotional than my first and I think would another be even harder.

The thing that annoys me the most is no doctor or specialist that I have been seems to take it seriously as it’s only two. I know they are just statistics but have you seen them!!! This is what scares me the most. After one your chances of having a second is 14-21%. After two your chances of a third is 24-33%.

I would like to think I would be third time lucky but I guess it don’t always work that way.

I’ve done a lot of research into aspirin. My dad hade a heart attach at 43 and my mom a blood clot in her lung at 34. She’s also had 6 miscarriages. I keep thinking I’ve just got bad genes or something hereditary going on. I’ve asked several times at the doctors if I can be tested for APS and I think I’ve got sticky blood, constantly got pins and needles. Also a huge factor to the cause of miscarriage with women who have it. And one of the treatments during pregnancy is aspirin. So although I’m not technically diagnosed with it and it could be me just bein paronoid I will definitely be taking daily aspirin during me next pregnancy with or without my doctors advice.

I hope you go on to have a successful pregnancy. Xxxxxxx

So sorry.

I’ve had two.

First one two weeks before my wedding
Pregnant with DS 3 months later
Second one when DS was 2
Pregnant with DD 18 months later

All the best xx

Thank you both for your replies! I didn't think I was going to get any so I really appreciate it ❤️

I think I will be trying aspirin with our next one, it can't hurt right?! I am the same, I feel like there is something wrong but the doctors won't even entertain me until we have a third which just seems so harsh that women have to go through this three times! I've almost given up after two as the heartache each time is killing me inside.

I will be keeping my fingers cross for you and myself, third time lucky 🤞🥰

I've had an MC & Chemical and my GP doesn't agree with Asprin she was saying it was only needed for one condition and can make heartburn etc worse so I guess it's what works for you.
A friend has had 7 MC and I think she took Asprin for the last 5 so it's really hit and miss but worth speaking to your GP.
I can't imagine going for a 12w scan and finding out I've paid for private scans which is ridiculos at £89 but I just knew things wasn't right.
Huge hugs and be kind to yourself.

We haven’t got as far as you, but I feel your pain. We had a miscarriage at 9 weeks in January and I’m currently having another at 5 weeks. It is really gutting that we have to suffer another before anything happens help wise.