Coping with negative comments

[Dramaqueen14]

Hi, I had a mc in September at 11 weeks. It’s still really raw for me and I’m up and down in terms of my emotions. Sometimes feel happy and smiling again and other times I’m really low.

Anyway, tomorrow I am meeting a good friend for lunch. She lives abroad so is home visiting. She had a baby in the summer so will be first time meeting her too. This will also be hard.

When I told my friend about my mc over messages she said things like “at least it was early” and “it obviously wasn’t meant to be” which hurt.

I’m worried I will find it hard seeing her and the baby tomorrow if she says things like that.

Any advice on how I couple cope? What to say? She’s a really good friend of many years and I’m happy for her but don’t so don’t want things to be frosty xx

Firstly I'm so sorry for your loss @Dramaqueen14. It is really devastating what you've gone through and all your feelings are so natural, especially when it's still so raw.

Could you maybe just let her know gently that cook hen nts like that are actually not helpful and really upsetting? Maybe right drop her a message to say you're looking forward to meeting up with her but that you're still really struggling to cope with the pain and grief of your loss and send her this link www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/your-feelings/simply-say/

They've got a good leaflet called Someone You Know which you could download and send to her by email or Whatsapp.

I hope you enjoy your meet up with her x