Anxiety after miscarriage

[bellainthemiddle]

I feel ridiculous to be affected like this, but I have been feeling really wound up and tearful after having a miscarriage a month back. I feel like it's stupid to feel like this - it wasn't even a planned pregnancy, and I was more stressed about missing work than anything else at the time (had to have D&C a bit later as it wasn't complete and my manager was giving me a hard time because we had a huge project deadline). But last week I got into such a state of anxiety that I could barely sleep or eat and I was constantly replaying it in my mind and worrying about things. I have never suffered with anxiety before and I'm just not handling things well. Is this 'normal' and... what can I do? I would be so grateful for any advice! x

Firstly I'm very sorry for your loss.

Secondly - it's absolutely not stupid to feel like that!
I have had several MCs and I become fixated/obsessed about my reproductive system before during and after pregnancies/MCs/periods now.

I am a serial symptom spotter and I even came off MN for about 6 months as I couldn't bear seeing all the pg threads.

My advice would be that it's normal to grieve after something horrible like that, I also had to have a d&c and it was pretty horrid (but not as bad as the manual procedure - crikes).

I kept talking to people who knew, who I knew would be sympathetic and or had also gone through it.
These boards are really good to get it all out.
Be kind to yourself and don't beat yourself up when you're having a low day.

I was lucky not to suffer with lack of sleep although I do find when I have racing thoughts at bedtime that there's a weird relaxation technique I learnt about 20 yrs ago, that still helps now.
Mindfulness might help?
If not, try those Kalms type sleeping tablets (I take them around shift work and they really help me, plus I am still able to hear my alarm properly!)
If THAT doesn't work I'd suggest talking to your GP about it.

Good luck and I hope you feel better soon. X