Due date approaching, all emotions coming back.

[L2018]

So i miscarried back in May at 12 weeks. My due date was 18th November. Now the date is fast approaching and all of my emotions are coming back. I’ve been crying myself to sleep most nights, lying there thinking I should be heavily pregnant. Surrounded by baby clothes waiting for the arrival. I would have also probably been on/ getting ready to go onto maternity leave. I’m dreading Christmas, I should of had a perfect baby 6 weeks old.
I’m really struggling at the moment.
Any words of advice. Xxx

Oh L2018 I'm so so sorry you're going through this and finding it hard. It's just horrible. I'm a couple of months behind you, lost at 12 wks in mid-July, baby due in January. I'm also dreading Christmas knowing I should be heavily pregnant expecting our first DC. I haven't got any advice really as I've not reached the same point as you yet but just wanted to send hugs. Stay strong and if you need to cry then cry and pop on here if you to say anything you feel others who've not experienced this won't understand. How you're getting is totally natural and something only time can help with learning how to cope with the pain of loss of a much loved and wanted baby x

I’m so sorry. Please know you’re not alone. I too feel like this even though my due date is a while away. I would be due in April, and now I feel like everyone I speak to knows someone due in April. I am dreading it already 😰

@L2018 so sorry for your loss. I have had two miscarriages . One last year and one this year. I really struggled around Christmas and the new year as I was due near year's day and would have been due this December too . A woman once said to me when you get pregnant again, think of it like this. The wee soul or angel that you never got to meet first time round is coming back into your body and life when you get pregnant again, think of it like the baby coming back to you. I thought this was actually a much nicer way to think of it. I think it will always be hard around due date. Maybe try plan a wee break away or a day out. I did plan something and did end up very upset , I think that's only normal and natural. Sending hugs. X

I lost one at 16 weeks this year. You don't need constant reminders. Is there a reason why you are surrounded by baby clothes? Can you put them away?
Is this your first?

L2018 it was my due date today. 18 months, 2 pregnancies and no babies. It's a very lonely experience. Hugs and

Hi, it's difficult I had to lose my baby at 12 weeks due to severe medical reasons and my SIL was due the day after me so my due date was really hard ( I have a healthy niece now she was 2 days late). I think it's important to keep yourself busy on your due date but do something to kind of say goodbye that's what I did and I think it has helped me move on. I'm in a better place now my boy would have been due in June- hope this helps xx

I'm sorry for your loss L2018, and sorry to hear you're emotions have come flooding back.

Having recently had an ectopic pregnancy (3weeks into recovery) I'm dreading what would have been my due date. My friend who miscarried a few years back says she always gets a bit emotional on what would have been her due date but focuses on her little boy who came after.

I don't have any words of how to help... but I know having a good cry and a snuggle into my favourite teddy (I am 30) always helps me!